02/11/2024
DO’S AND DON’TS WHEN ASKING FOR LEGAL ADVICE
1. Mind your language and your manners.
Respect is valued, not just by lawyers, but by all individuals. So when you address the lawyer, and especially in a situation where you are asking him for a favor, you’ve got to make the effort to express yourself politely. No one wants to be given orders especially if there is no duty to obey, and when you don’t get anything back from obeying. Some people forget their basic courtesy and decorum, expecting the lawyer to help them, and to do it fast. These are the people who end up being rightfully ignored by lawyers when they ask legal questions.
2. Don’t ask questions for the sake of testing the lawyer’s competence, or provoking him into an argument.
Make sure that when you ask legal questions, these, more or less, come from real life situations, if not, from problems that you yourself actually encounter and need to be helped. If you are in the habit of creating scenarios simply for the sake of testing the lawyer’s skills or professional competence, or worse, if you dare to argue with the lawyer on a point of law, you are wasting his time, and depriving the people who deserve to be helped of the assistance they badly need from the lawyer. Don’t ever pretend to know more than the lawyer on matters of law, if you don’t even qualify to get into law school yourself.
3. Ask only questions that require a legal answer.
Even ordinary people have the common sense to know if a subject relates to law or not. If you feel that way about the question you have in mind, you are probably correct, so avoid badgering the lawyer for an answer to that kind of question. No lawyer would enjoy answering questions that you don’t find in the book or in actual practice. For instance, asking when will the company pay your last salary after your resignation, or how long will it take for the court to decide on your complaint are more subjective and depends on factors not strictly confined to law. Expect the answer “it depends”, or, “within reasonable time”. Leave it at that and don’t expect an exact answer because lawyers are just as clueless.
4. Never expect the lawyer to take your side just because you ask him for his advice.
A lot of people unload their frustrations on social media and expect everyone’s sympathy, especially from lawyers who don’t even know them. Lawyers are professionals and they will not betray their oath just to please you and say “you’re right”. Since you took the risk in asking a lawyer for his advice, expect only professional answers and be ready for the hard truths. Don’t ask expecting the lawyer to say the things you want to hear. If you are wrong, the lawyer will tell you so, and sometimes, without sugarcoating his indignation.
5. Be mindful of the lawyer’s time and his boundaries.
Once your legal problem had been answered and the lawyer had given his best to address all your concerns, you must show the courtesy of knowing when it’s time to stop. Never fall into the habit of endless repetition, asking the same questions over and over again, when you should already know that they have already been answered. Another thing to avoid is shifting into another entirely different topic after the lawyer had entertained your requests for clarification and guidance in your original problem. Don’t abuse the lawyer’s generosity and learn to appreciate the kindness in his willingness to share his time and expertise. Save your other questions for another day.