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Expat ADHD life coaching, IJmuiden (2026)

16/06/2026

What if you are not failing?

What if you are just fighting the wrong battle?

You are trying to stop the shouting.

The “I won’t do it.”
The school drama.
The "go to bed" war.

But ADHD parenting is rarely about behaviour.

The real battle is always underneath.

The lagging skills.
The exhaustion.
The nervous system.
The guilt.
The pressure to “just be stricter.”

I’m hosting a free webinar:

Stop Fighting the Wrong Battle: 6 ADHD Parenting Shifts I Wish Someone Had Told Me Sooner

For parents who are tired of trying harder and still ending up in the same place.

Comment SHIFT and I’ll send you the details.

11/06/2026

“I am incredibly organized at work. But at home? I can’t seem to create or keep anything in order” she said with despair…

And I thought:

This is exactly where a lot of ADHD moms start judging themselves.

Because if you can do it at work, then why not at home?

And the truth is simple .

You can be strong in one situation and struggle deeply in another.
You can be capable at work and overwhelmed at home.
You can be successful outside and still need support inside your own house.

That doesn’t mean you are bad mom.
It doesn’t mean you are broken.
It doesn’t mean you are not made for family life.

It means this part of your life needs support.

Not more shame. Not more “try harder.”
And definitely not another perfect routine you will hate by Wednesday.

Support.

Because dear , the goal is not to prove that you can do everything.

The goal is to stop carrying everything alone.

10/06/2026

I get really frustrated when people give advice about ADHD motherhood while having absolutely no idea what an ADHD mom is actually going through.

They come with this mindset of: “If you really wanted to, you would.”

And I get it.
That sounds very nice when you have inherited confidence, a nervous system with WiFi, and the ability to start a task without first negotiating with your whole existence.

But please.

Don’t assume.

Don’t assume we are all made the same.
Don’t assume we all have the same starting point.
Don’t assume we all have the same support.

Because in real life, willingness is one thing.

Environment, genetics, nervous system, support, sleep, hormones, money, co-parenting, and a child shouting about socks at 7:42 in the morning are also things.

So instead of engaging in 🤬, I did something more constructive.

I painted my nails.

Because apparently every time someone gives me unsolicited advice like they are the senior executive director of my life, I need to pamper myself for not responding the way my younger self would have.

You can call it self-care.

I call it self-regulation with nail polish.

Who's with me ?

09/06/2026

When your child says:

“I hate you.”
“You ruin my life.”

It hurts.

Especially when you know how much you do.

You work.
You care.
You try.
You explain.
You stay up late worried.
You give from places that are already empty.

And then one sentence can make you feel like all of it means nothing.

I want you to pause there.

Our ADHD children didn't woke up one day thinking: “How can I hurt my mom today?”

This is dysregulation.

Their nervous system is overloaded.

The words come out before they can stop them.
That doesn’t mean we ignore the words.
It doesn’t mean we accept being hurt.

It means we don’t try to teach when everything is on fire.

Because when everything is on fire, the brain is not ready to learn.

So first:

Pause.
Keep everyone safe.
Use fewer words.
Do not enter the fight.

Come back later.

Later is where you talk.
Later is where you repair.
Later is where you say: “These words are not okay. What can we do next time?”

Not in the fire.
In the fire, you bring the fire down.

04/06/2026

“She’s 12 and she barely knows what she needs to do when she’s hungry.”

She said it with frustration.

Not because she didn’t love her daughter. But because she was tired.

Tired of repeating.
Tired of explaining.
Tired of thinking : “ .... How can she still not know this?”

And what I heard underneath was:

“She is lagging a skill.”

So I asked:

“What have you tried to do to teach her?”

And she said:

“She just needs to see what I’m doing. That’s how I learned.”

And I continued:

“Is this how she will learn?”

Silence.

Not awkward silence.

The kind of silence where something lands.

“You are right,” she whispered.

“She would never learn like that.”

And then came the sigh.
The kind of sigh that sounds like a ton of rocks being offloaded from someone’s back.

That’s a moment of clarity in coaching.

Not because I gave her a perfect strategy.
Not because I told her what to do.

But because she stopped banging her head against the same wall, expecting a different result.

She saw that her daughter was not being difficult.
She was not lazy.
She was not refusing to grow up.

She needed something to be taught differently.

And maybe, just maybe, the frustration was not proof that this mom was failing.
It was a sign that the method was not matching the child.

This is what we do in coaching.

We pause the panic.
We look at what is really happening.

We separate the child from the behaviour.

We separate the mom from the guilt.

And then we find a way that actually fits your child, your nervous system, and your home.

Because ADHD parenting is not about trying harder at things that don’t work.

It’s about seeing differently.
And when you see differently, you can respond differently.

If you are tired of repeating the same thing and wondering why nothing changes, we can look at it together.

My door is open.

03/06/2026

I am not sure what’s the correct way to write about it ,
but many asked me so …

Here are some ways we can work together!

☄️I help your quirky colourful and bouncy brain to work their way so that you can go after the goals you want - not the ones society says - not the ones mama is whispering in your head … the deeper desires you have in life … might be that you want to just sleep without spiraling .. or nail that project on time. Other times could be that you need clarity of how this scattered brain of yours works better and your end game is the Peace … All those we can handle with 1-1 Coaching .

👶And if you are navigating ADHD through your child and you feel exhausted , failing constantly and nothing works ,... I feel you a million times… that's why I created the ‘The Confident ADHD parent’ program which is a combination of training and coaching. What will we tackle there? Everything ! From how the ADHD brain works to the emotional dysregulation and the defiance-dance while looking at your own experiences with your child and leaving with clarity, strategies and lots of homework …

Do you want to know more about it ?

It's easy…

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Don't be afraid!
It's a complimentary -that means FREE- appointment of 30 min with me to discuss what you need in this moment in time and how i can help you on this.

Oh … shouldn’t forget to mention …

Deep male voice:

“ More …“ “ things …” “on your way…”

“ are coming up …”

“ stay tuned … “

(i was trying to do the pauses but it didnt work… - i need to do videos more often!)

P.S. in the photo is the famous Arthur the Great! My friend's cat who is always judging us like we did something terribly wrong ... ts ts ts

02/06/2026

As the school year is coming to an end, the moment of truth comes up…
Stress levels are rising for both ADHD moms and kids.

Exams that didn’t go well.
Low scores that don’t reflect the effort.
The possibility of retaking the same class.

And all the thoughts that come with that…
“I am stupid.” “I feel useless.” “All my friends are moving on and I’m not.” “What’s wrong with me?”

And that's what the ADHD mom is afraid.

That her child feels less, and she doesn’t always know how to support them.

And we try to fix the feeling:
“No, that’s not true.”

Or we try to explain the results:
“You didn’t work hard enough.”

or we try to fix the situation immediately:
“We’ll get a tutor.”

And kids are exploding while moms are wondering:
“Why does my kid behave like that when I am only trying to help ?

What would you do if someone was trying to “fix” your feelings ?

I know I would GO MAD!!!

Their feelings are theirs. They are not something we are allowed to fix, ignore, belittle, or rush away because they make us uncomfortable. Because when we do that, they don’t feel supported.

They feel unseen.
They feel unheard.

And that is what your child may be experiencing at that moment.

So next time you hear, “I am stupid,”

try not to judge it.
Try not to correct it .
Try not to explain why it is not true.

Just be there.
Even in silence.

The only thing they need is to know is that their feeling is safe with you.

28/05/2026

“How do I know if I’m ready for coaching?”

Not when you want quick fixes.

Not when you want someone to tell you: “Do these 5 things and your life will change.”

And not when you want someone else to “fix” your child, your partner, your ADHD or your emotions.

Coaching starts working when something shifts internally.

When you begin wondering:

“Maybe the problem is deeper than strategies.”

When you become willing to pause.

Observe.
Reflect.
Question your own patterns.
Notice your beliefs.

Sit with discomfort without immediately escaping it.

Not because you are broken.

But because you are finally ready to understand yourself differently.

The people who grow the most are not the ones with the perfect plan.

They’re the ones who say:

“I don’t want to keep living like this anymore.”

That’s where real coaching begins.

27/05/2026

I think many ADHD women always knew.

Not necessarily that it was ADHD.
But somehow that they were different.

More intense. More emotional. More reactive.
More overwhelmed. More sensitive. More “too much.”

More exhausted by things others seemed to handle normally.

But they found ways to survive.

Many became incredibly capable.

High achievers. Reliable.The strong one. The funny one. The responsible one. The helper. The people pleaser. The overworker.

They built systems.

Mental systems. Emotional systems. Control systems.

And somehow…it worked.

Until life changed.

A child. A breakup. A burnout. Perimenopause. A second child. A demanding job.

And suddenly the old strategies stopped working.

The overwhelm became louder.
The emotional regulation disappeared.
The self-awareness vanished under survival mode.

And that’s usually the tipping point.

Not:
“I think I have ADHD.”

But:
“I don’t recognize myself anymore.”

That moment is painful.

Because suddenly you don’t only need answers.

You need to re-understand yourself.
Reconnect with yourself.
Re-introduce yourself… to yourself.

Not the masked version.
Not the survival version.

And maybe the next chapter is not becoming someone new.

Maybe it’s finally meeting yourself properly.

26/05/2026

Sometimes I wonder…
Where should someone actually start?

With the diagnosis
Or
with self-exploration?

Because I see many people finally getting diagnosed with ADHD…
and expecting the diagnosis itself to suddenly bring peace.

But the diagnosis is not the ending.

It’s the beginning of a very uncomfortable honesty.

You suddenly start revisiting your whole life:

“Wait… THAT was ADHD too?”
“That’s why I reacted like this?”
“That’s why I always felt different?”
“That’s why I keep burning out?”

And then comes the harder part.

Understanding yourself.

Your patterns.
Your shame.
Your exhaustion.
Your fears.
Your needs.
Your nervous system.
Your relationships.
Your self-talk.

A diagnosis can explain.

The self-exploration transforms.

And the real shift begins the moment someone

stops asking:
“How do I fix myself?”

…and

starts asking:
“What is actually happening inside me?”

That’s where things change.

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