House of Awareness-coaching & counselling

23/04/2024

In life, challenges often appear like rocks strewn across our path. While we can't eliminate every obstacle, we can protect ourselves with resilience and preparedness.

Just as sturdy shoes shield us from injury on a rocky trail, inner strength and determination safeguard us from life's trials. Embrace the journey, knowing that each step forward, no matter how difficult, brings us closer to our goals.

So lace up your metaphorical "strong shoes" and face adversity head-on, for it is through overcoming obstacles that we truly grow and thrive. With perseverance and resilience, we can navigate even the rockiest paths with grace and fortitude, emerging stronger and wiser on the other side. Ready to strengthen your resilience and tackle life's challenges?

Book a counselling session today and embark on a journey of self-discovery and growth.👣🚶🏻‍♀️

11/04/2024

It is admirable to have a genuine desire to serve and improve the lives of others. Such a desire creates positive connections, benefits lives, and makes one's day and even life better. However, what if this desire, as honorable as it may be, does not come from a good place?

If you grew up in a household where you experienced any of the following:

• Emotional neglect
• Lack of affection and warmth
• Psychological, physical, or verbal abuse
• Being punished for having an opinion or voice
• Being rewarded for being a "good girl/boy" and behaving "well"
• Being blamed for other people's bad moods, sickness, etc.

Then, you are likely programmed to know all the answers and to react and solve problems as quickly as possible. This is because not knowing how to fix a problem would mean that you are in danger and would be punished. So, naturally, you become "Mr. Fix it" to survive.

As we grow and move away from our parental homes, we no longer need this defense mechanism. However, until we become aware of it and make a change, it will remain active and control our actions and reactions.

06/04/2024

Embrace the beauty within yourself, for what you see in others is often a reflection of your own light. ✨

02/04/2024

I recently attended an event where Mickelle Weber, a Tedx Speaker and Founder of House of Peregrine, spoke about single-income households. She presented a unique perspective on relationships, suggesting that it might be useful to view starting a relationship as starting a business.

Just as in business, before agreeing to work together, both parties should have deep conversations about what they will be doing, who will be responsible for what, what the outcome of their work together will be, and so on. Similarly, one should never accept a job offer without reading the contract and negotiating the terms of one's contribution.

Looking at a relationship this way isn't taking away the romanticism and emotional connection out of it. It is really creating a safe space for both individuals to feel confident and validated. As two mature adults, you lay out your expectations, values, goals and criteria to reach a common agreement about how they will move forward and what will happen if one day all 💩 goes to hell (🤯) eg. divorce, death, sickness.

24/03/2024

PART 2
Emotional regulation and awareness are a huge part of relationship building 💕. That is why I'm adding a part two. Instead of avoiding to deal with our frustrations let's tackle them head on and be brave. Here are some steps you can take next time you start seeing red during an argument 🔴:

👤 STOP TALKING - this is a very hard one, but I find that a moment of silence can be a turning point in an argument. As you feel you are getting more and more heated, try to stop yourself from saying the next word on your mind. Just the one word, and. that can break the flow and course of the conversation both of you.

👤 DON'T TRY TO SOLVE IT RIGHT NOW - there are several types of people during an argument. Two of those can be 1) the fix-it-now-er and 2) I-need-a break-to-think-about-this-er. If you are the first one, consider that sometimes a problem cannot be fixed when emotions and feelings are high. No one is thinking clearly at this moment so it is not realistic to think that you can come to a resolution at that moment.

👤 TAKE A BREAK - related to the previous point. In times of conflict, it can be useful to go to separate spaces and calm down. Once you feel you have a clear head, and can think more reasonably you can revisit the conversation more calmly.

If you need some support with working on the above, send me a DM or book a free chat via the link in my bio.

23/03/2024

💕 VULNERABILITY 💕 is the #1 best tool when it comes to relationship building and here is why:

🤍 It filters out unsuitable partners
🤍 You stay true to yourself and don’t hide parts of yourself that will come out later anyway
🤍 You don’t waste your time
🤍 Creates a safe space for sharing personal stories
🤍 Builds trust

I completely understand that vulnerability can be a scary thing, and it's completely natural to fear being rejected or judged (especially when you've been hurt for it). However, I want to encourage you to take a leap of faith because the results and benefits of vulnerability are truly worth it. Remember that it's okay to be vulnerable, and it's a sign of strength, not weakness. You've got this!

And if you need some support, drop me a DM, and let's work on it together.

23/03/2024

Emotional regulation and awareness are a huge part of relationship building 💕. Especially, in a heated argument. It is so crucial to catch ourselves before we go too far, say too much, and hurt. It's equally important to know how we can calm ourselves down and have a constructive conversation with our partner. However, if we haven't learned about emotional regulation, it can be challenging to manage our emotions in such situations. Here are some tips that can help you learn to self-soothe during & after a spicy conversation 🌶️:

👤 BREATH - as you are getting angrier and hotter (literally), remember to take a breath (in and out) so that you can return to a clear and calm state. That one breath might be all you need.

👤 LOOK AWAY - It is possible that looking at your partner during a conversation can be triggering and lead to an increase in intensity. Try shifting your gaze to something else. This can help you refocus and gather your thoughts, allowing you to calm down and continue the conversation more constructively.

👤 GO AWAY -Immediately leave the room and distance yourself from your partner until you find a quiet space to collect yourself.

If you need some support with working on the above, send me a DM or book a free chat via the link in my bio.

23/03/2024

✅ The first step is to acknowledge what has happened in the past and how these experiences affect you in the present moment. This is already a very hard and BRAVE step.

✅ Once you have come to a conclusion about your experience, think about what support you need to process the emotions and find closure. Some examples are:
🪄 reaching out to that person having the “closure” conversation
🪄 taking an emotional intelligence course or workshop
🪄 reading self-help books
🪄 talking to a counsellor or psychologist
🪄 journaling
🪄 physical exercise

✅ Once the healing process has started, the next step is to get comfortable talking about your emotional baggage and scars. If you are ever to connect truly to another person, you need to be able to be open and vulnerable. That is how real connections are built!

If you have any questions or would like support on dealing with relationship baggage, feel free to send me a DM or schedule a free Exploratory conversation via the link in my bio. 💕

23/03/2024

This might be an unpopular opinion, but the first step is to check with yourself. Do you really want and need new meaningful connections? Sometimes, what we already have is all we need. However, due to external pressures, we might be led to think otherwise.

#2 is to consider dating individuals who appreciate and understand your ambition and career. Be strict about this to avoid wasting your limited time.

23/03/2024

22/03/2024

After many years of personal and professional experience, I started House of Awareness to assist people, couples, and groups in achieving their goals. Now, together with Nathalia, we help people take control of their personal growth, increase self-awareness, and begin a journey of spiritual healing.

29/02/2024

We can have the strongest, purest love for another person and still need boundaries. Boundaries are what keep us connected to ourselves and give us the space to be authentic.⁠
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