14/03/2023
Immediately after my NYSC camping, I traveled back home to visit my immediate family and to make my mum proud for her years of successful unrelenting efforts in ensuring that I and my siblings got the quality education she pictured in her mind. It was during this period I collected the contact of a lady who happened to be the daughter of one of mum's friends from one of my girlfriends. Even though I lied to my girlfriend that I am collecting the contact for my brother. When I put a call through and introduced myself to the lady, she dropped the call immediately she recognized my voice and I stopped calling her thereafter.
I was surprised when the same lady messaged to wish me happy Idil-Kabir about 2 months later. And we started communicating thereof. Like a sharp hunter, I shoot at my prey righteously. But she said that she truly loved me but she cannot date me. When I asked why she reluctantly told me she has someone she was dating but the guy cut off the relationship after his NYSC, but she always emphasized that she still loved the guy. When all my efforts to make her mine failed, I asked her to give me the guy's contact, I had a conversation with the guy and he told me that her mum went to an Alfa(Yoruba name for Arabic cleric) and he told her that they are not compatible. When I relayed my conversations with her estranged lover, the lady changed her mind and felt favorably toward me and we started the journey to my truest relationship to date.
I treasured this lady, for the first time in my life, I introduced a lady to my mum and the entire family and they all accepted her warmly. My mum loved her wholeheartedly. I always love what my mum loves. My mum's love for her triggered my love for her and it was during this period I understood that the heart truly beats for the people we cherish.
We dated for almost 2 years and we were so close, intimate, and cordial. However, toward the latter stage of our relationship, her phones were always busy, and whenever we were together her phone always rang consistently unpicked. There was this particular day she came to visit me and she told me that she was going home. Being suspicious of the incessant callings, I went to her mum's store and I saw her sitting with another man. When I called her, she told me she was at home. I was sobered like a boy that lost his food money. At that moment the relationship was over in my mind but I can't let go of her because I was so attached to her. I hate liars and she knew that, she knew my principles and she broke my major principle that night.
I couldn't sleep. She came to my place with her friend the following morning to apologize, but I was so skeptical to accept the apology because the value of my trust is too expensive to be breached. My skepticism was confirmed on her next visit with consistent callings from her new guy. But I still cannot let go. Whenever she came to visit me thereafter, I always sent her away, but I will still be the one calling to beg her to come back. I was open-minded enough to give her the second chance but I caught her intimately with the same guy again.
I was emotionally traumatized, distressed, disappointed, and depressed to the point that I could neither eat, sleep nor think straight. It was during this period of an inner fight with my hotly served (breakfast) I resorted to all sorts of drugs. When I couldn't fight it alone any longer I informed a close ally who engaged the service of a counselor who helped me escape the journey of negative thoughts and imminent drug addiction menace. I forgot her completely. I was so naive to trust any lady again and I resumed my pl***oy lifestyle after I recovered. And she also got married unhappily to the same guy.
We did not talk for a very long time until I suddenly received a call from her one night, and we talked extensively about our best and worst moments together. Suddenly, she started crying on the phone, she was so disappointed that we couldn't get married. She told me she couldn’t conceive after 3 years of marriage and when she eventually did she got a miscarriage. They visited different medical and traditional doctors and they were always told that none of them have infertility problems. She told me that her mum took them to one Alfa and he told them she offended one person and they cannot have a child until she seeks the blessings of that person.
She told me that her mind went to me immediately and her husband persuaded her to call me. Understandably, she did and I prayed for her and just like a God-sent angel, she conceived and gave birth to a bouncing baby girl. I am happy that she did and we have been in constant communication since then. A day before the naming ceremony she asked me to give her daughter a name and I named her Ifesowapo meaning( love joins us together). She is now living happily in marriage. God willing, I am also planning to get married to my fiancée immediately after her NYSC.
It was not that I did anything to hinder her childbirth in the first place, it was just the law of karma that played out against my will. I enjoin you all to always be open-minded and truthful in whatever relationship you are into, whether it may be business, family, working, spiritual, and/or love relationships. When you felt being cheated or shortchanged, the supernatural being (God) in existence beyond human knowledge shall speak for you and seek justice on your behalf.
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The world is a global village and we have to live and relate in it as we will always meet each other every other day. For we will always be judged based on our previous experiences with one another. BLRO is not a perfect personality, but it is mandatory on us to always do our best to do the right things not only at the right time but also at all times. That's why I write to right.