TEEN TALK WITH DIYA

05/02/2023

MORAL VALUES THAT CAN SET YOUR PATH TO GREATNESS

Happy new year lovelies!🥰I trust you all had a fun-filled festive season. 🤩 I have had a very tight schedule since my last post, but I am glad to finally share this insightful knowledge with you all at this time that the year is at its prime.

So last time, I discussed spirituality and morality and how important it is for one to be spiritually inclined in order to be able to uphold good morals. In as much as we all know that there is a noticeable moral decline, it is still very pertinent that young individuals embrace and uphold certain moral values in order to be outstanding among the crowd. The truth is that the world at large presently needs individuals with high moral values. There is a great demand on moral decency in this era of moral decay! Won't you like to be among the outstanding and greatly demanded set of people? 🤪😜 Having and upholding the morals that are in short supply is what you need to be recognized, valued and respected in the society.

The moral values which I believe many people lack in this present time and which are highly needed are:
-Respect
-Self discipline
-Contentment
-Integrity
-Honesty
-Empathy
-Loyalty
-Diligence

Can you think of any other? Kindly share in the comment section and I would be glad to discuss with you. 😊

Now let's look into each of them, shall we? 😋

RESPECT: To show politeness, honour and care towards someone or something depicts respect. As an individual it is paramount to exhibit and have all forms of respect. Respect comes in different forms such as self respect, respect for the elderly, respect for humans and so forth. Self respect makes you not to engage in a whole lot of vices that will degrade you. When you have high self respect, you will most certainly avoid actions that will ruin and tarnish your image or reputation. You will only be concerned with things that will build and maintain your self worth. You will exhibit your self respect through your mode of dressing, your construction of speech (vulgar and insulting statements will be far from you), you will definitely avoid certain places, crowds and events.

Respect for the elderly is unfortunately lacking among many growing teens. A whole lot teens are losing touch of this great virtue that is capable of opening many doors of success. Many have lost some golden opportunities because of their disrespect for the elderly ones around them. Many young teens can even easily disrespect their parents without thinking through the consequences of their actions. There is no religious book that does not emphasize on the importance of respecting the elderly around you! Check the bible in Timothy 5:1-3, Leviticus 19:32 and many more verses. Having respect for the advanced and elderly ones around you marks you out as a responsible and likable fellow. People around you, especially the elderly ones can easily give sincere recommendations about you even in your absence. Good words will be said about you which undoubtedly can open doors of opportunities for you.

Other than self respect and respect for the elderly, another form of respect which many people lack is the respect for your fellow human being. Age difference is not considered in this form of respect. You express this respect by having regard for anyone around you simply because you understand the fact that others are humans like you and should be treated just the same way you wished to be treated. You have to speak and treat everyone around you with humility and kindness despite if the person is younger. When you come across someone you presume to be older than, you don't go about lashing, insulting and talking down on the person simply because you feel you are older. You have to carry everyone around you with dignity and respect.

I have witnessed a lady lose her job because she failed to accord proper respect to her boss by addressing him as 'sir' because she felt the boss is her junior and was fond of speaking rudely about the boss. Of course she got sacked! 🤣🤣
I have also seen a man who kept on getting promotions at his working place to the envy of his colleagues because he had unbiased respect for their younger boss. A younger fellow might know one or two you do not know and can have connections you do not have, how then do you intend to gain knowledge from him or her if you have been nothing but hostile to the person?

Now ways you can show respect include:
-Offering greetings and pleasantries
-Not using insulting and derogatory words on others
-Regarding the opinions and decisions of others
-Correcting and advising others politely and with love
-Respecting other people's boundaries
(Add more ways if you know any in the comment section)

There is a popular saying that respect is reciprocal, indeed it is! Give it out and you will definitely receive it back. Now tell me, when people around you respect and hold you in high esteem, won't it contribute to your self happiness/love and success? 🤔🤔

Catch you next time lovelies!

Love from Diya 🥰🥰

16/12/2022

MORALITY VS SPIRITUALITY

As a teenager, how do you understand the concept of morality and spirituality? Is it pertinent as a teen to be morally or/and spiritually inclined? What benefits come with enhancing your life spiritually and morally as a teenager?

Firstly, let us understand the meaning of morality and spirituality and how the two can go hand in hand. Morality is defined by the Oxford dictionary as the principles concerning right and wrong or good and bad behaviors. The second definition in the Oxford dictionary is that morality is the degree to which something is right or wrong, good or bad etc. according to moral principles. Then, according to Collin dictionary, morality is a system of principles and values concerning people's behavior, which is generally accepted by a society or by a particular group of people. Then in my understanding, morality is the principles concerning right or wrong as stipulated by humans in the society. Spirituality is being defined by the Oxford dictionary as the quality of being concerned with religion or the human spirit or soul as opposed to material or physical things. And the Collins dictionary defined it as a state or quality of being dedicated to God, religion or spiritual things or values especially as contrasted with material or temporal ones. Then I understand spirituality as the act of knowing and engaging in spiritual values designed supernaturally.

Being moral means to conform yourself to those things or values that have been mapped out to be right or wrong by the general society and being spiritual means to conform to those values mapped out supernaturally to be right or wrong. Shikina!😛🤓

Having understood this, it simply implies that moral values are designed by humans in the society and as such are bound to be dynamic, changing over time just as the humans who created them while spiritual values are static because they are supernatural orchestrated. I believe that spirituality gives birth to morality. A spiritually minded individual is bound to be morally inclined because spirituality makes one to consciously know and do good over bad or evil. Therefore, spirituality, feeds morality! Can one be moral and is not spiritual? Yes! One can know and practice values deemed right in the society and not be spiritually minded but a
TRULY spiritually inclined individual will always have good moral values.

Remember, moral values are stipulated by humans and are likely to be dynamic, the main question should be, how long can an unspiritual individual maintain good values? We are now in a society where bad values are quickly becoming acceptable and normalized, a society where people with great virtues are almost marginalized by individuals with low morals. People are now loosing grip of what we used to know as good morals. A whole lot of vices are gaining societal acceptance. For instance, stealing, lying, deceit and fraud have become disguised as YAHOO and now mostly acceptable as many people can confidently declare that they are into it and even many growing teenagers can even mention YAHOO as one of the things they desire to go into😞😒 and they now believe it is a hustle that is acceptable. Shall we now talk about how prostitution ( hook up), sexual disorientation ( gay and lesbianism) etc are all gaining societal acceptance under the guise of LIVING YOUR LIFE/TRUTH?

Once upon a time, a pr******te was generally seen a girl/lady with low values and avoided and the act was totally unacceptable in the society and women who indulge in it do it discritely but what is happening in recent times? 😏😏🤓 What does this show us about moral values mapped out by humans? Morality is very dynamic and can change and be reviewed by humans every now and then! And I do not think it is just enough to be moral without being spiritual. That is my understanding. I will give an illustration, Imagine a lady who is not spiritually inclined and she does not engage in prostitution because she knows it is not acceptable in the society. Then years later, prostitution starts gaining acceptance in the society, and becomes a 'lucrative' venture and people starts giving 'justifiable' reasons to indulge in the act. Of course, the lady will discard her old belief about prostitution and quickly join the moving train because she feels it is no longer a vice to engage in such venture. She believes only what the society judges to be right or wrong. But a spiritually inclined individual does not waver on his or her standards, despite what is happening in the society because he or she understands that those virtues are not just moral but also spiritual and supernaturally stipulated. And oh yes, spiritual values are ever static. 😁

Therefore, as a teenager, you have to aim to be packed with spiritual values which will surely make it possible and easy for you to be morally outstanding in the society. Note that being spiritually inclined does not depict PERFECTION (this is a discussion for another time). The point I am making is that you can easily maintain good morals when you are spiritually inclined. There are a whole lot of benefits of maintaining good values and standards as a young growing adult. I know you might ask and wonder "who good morals help?" Hello lovelies, I am here to discuss with you how having and maintaining good morals is the game changer needed as you transit into adulthood.

Watch out for my next post as we look into the positive values you need to have as a teen and I will explain with explicit examples as to how these values can smoothen your path to a successful and happy adult stage.

PEACE AND LOVE
DIYA

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28/09/2022

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28/09/2022

Hello lovelies! 😊

Welcome to TEEN TALK WITH DIYA 😃. My name is Ahudiya Grace Okwudili Olenyi, affectionately called Diya (Deeya)😊. I am married with two lovely kids. I am a certified public speaker and a life coach for teens. I am also a graduate with a degree in Medical Parasitology and a degree in view in Public Health. TTWD is a platform created by the desire to have a positive impact on teens and help them transition happily into adulthood with minimal life errors.

Just after I became an adult, I realized the effect that our choices as teenagers can have on us as adults. I am someone who will be proud to say that most of the choices I made in my adolescence have shaped me into the adult I am today. And I really want many teenagers to benefit from my life experiences as well as those of other responsible people to live through this difficult stage in their lives.

Over the years (say about 6 years now), I have had the opportunity to meet many teenagers who see me as their confidante and advisor. And they always become ever more focused and positive about life after an encounter with me 🙂. So I told myself 🤔, why not create a platform to reach more teenagers? I have on countless occasions encountered teenagers who are unfocused, lost and disoriented in almost every area of their life. In fact, according to a research by a Sociology lecturer in Government Degree College of Baramilla, the ethics, morals and values of individuals are continuously degenerating and deteriorating. And this is more evident among youngsters. Moral values are certainly decreasing and everything now has become materialistic and we are observing a situation where morals are nil and ethics have been sent off to the bottom of the ocean. There is a serious moral decay.

But the truth is that these young adults are in dare need of a non-judgemental coach- figure in their lives who will help them get back on track. However, many teens are already treading on the right track but need that pat on the back to encourage them. For these reasons, I created TEEN TALK WITH DIYA.

TTDW is a one stop platform that engages in both offline and online sensitization of teens through interactive, inspirational, educational and inspiring discussions that span through topics that touch every aspect of the developing life of a teenager. In TTDW, teenagers between the ages of 13 (early teens) to 22 (late teens) will be exposed to conversations and discussions that will enhance their mental state and general personality as they transit into adulthood.

I, Diya, promise to always engage you in discussions that will have positive ripple effects in multiple areas of your life as a youngster so you can start experiencing more happiness and balance in your life. Oh Yes! You will definitely have my heart in this platform. 🥰🥰

The unique value of this platform is the fact that you will get free and non-judgemental contents that will create positive changes in your day to day life and I will actively help you maneuver the obstacles and challenges associated with teenage stage via the impactful discussions that will be unfolded on this platform.

I believe in the potentials and dreams of every teenager and I believe that a teenager can transit into adulthood happily with little or no major damaging mistakes of life through passionate coaching. So hop on, let's ride! 🤗

Peace and Love.