04/08/2017
WHY DO WE HAVE PROBLEMS?
Remember the first time you tried to put a jigsaw puzzle together? You looked at all the different pieces as a child, didn't really know where to start. You tried this piece and that piece, trying to fix into this and that space, but to no success.
Then someone told you to start from the frame. You started looking for the frame pieces and then slowly worked your way into, and eventually piece by piece, you assembled the whole puzzle. You have solved a puzzle, which was a problem right at the beginning!
Do you have puzzles or problems in your life that you are trying to solve now? I am sure you have, we all have them. Instead of whining, complaining (or KPKB-ing) why we have these problems, who is causing them, who should have done what; let's take another perspective of looking at why do we have problems.
We came into these world with hundreds and thousands of puzzles waiting for us to assemble. Every puzzle presents a series of problems, and in solving each problem we are slowly putting the jigsaw pieces together. That's right, life's a process and journey of putting different pieces together, solving problem by problem.
Sure there is pain, frustrations, inconvenience with problems. But it is also in solving each puzzle and problem that the pain and negative emotions get eliminated one by one. Then you are truly free-ing yourself from pain, instead of running away from them.
Focus on solving your own puzzles and problems. Don't poke your nose into other people's. They have their own to solve, and you have your own. Each puzzle and problem presents important lessons to be learned. You have yours to learn, and they have theirs. Don't take away the learning opportunity from others and the people you love by solving the problems for them. That's selfish (although you think that's selfless). By solving other people's problems and not focusing on yours, you are also running away from the lessons you need to learn.
Learn to solve your own puzzles, respect other people's space to solve their own problems, and in doing so, you and your loved ones can truly grow mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
Life's a process solving puzzles, are you working on yours yet?
Coach Jensen Siaw