Evolving Hearts

13/07/2026

Kissing feels platonic.

There, I said it.

Not because I don't love my husband.
Not because I don't want him.
Not because there's anything wrong with my marriage.

But because something feels different lately and I've spent months trying to figure out why.

This article started as a ramble and somehow turned into a reflection on desire, novelty, long-term love and why I'm not entirely convinced everything needs to be turned into a lesson.

Anyway.

Here's my latest Substack.
Link in my Bio

06/07/2026

I want relationship advice from the couples who have sat in silence because they didn't know what to say.

The couples who have felt lonely lying beside the person they love.

The couples who have navigated resentment, exhaustion, mismatched desire, grief, financial stress and the relentless demands of raising children.

The couples who have had the same argument for the hundredth time and somehow found a way to have it differently.

The couples who don't always see eye to eye on parenting, money, family or life, but continue to turn towards each other instead of away.

The couples who have experienced seasons where intimacy felt effortless, and seasons where it felt like work.

The couples who have questioned whether they were going to make it.

The couples who have hurt each other, repaired, and learnt how to trust again.

The couples who have discovered that love isn't just a feeling. It's a practice.

I want relationship advice from the couples who have weathered the storm and found their way home to each other.

Not because they have a perfect relationship.

But because they have a real one.

One that has been tested by life and chosen again and again.

That's the kind of love I'm interested in.

The kind that survives the hard seasons.

The kind that evolves.

The kind that reminds us that long-term love was never about staying in the honeymoon phase forever.

It's about learning how to keep choosing each other when life inevitably asks more of you.

I wrote more about this in my latest substack article. ❤️

https://open.substack.com/pub/evolvinghearts/p/i-dont-want-relationship-advice-from?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=1sx4mt

02/07/2026

And sometimes you just need to put on sexy lingerie and take photos of yourself... 💁‍♀️

02/07/2026

26/06/2026

I was just thinking the other day that it must be coming up to one year of being sober. Low and behold, my one year anniversary came and went without me even realising.

Truthfully, it hasn't really been that big of a deal.

It hasn't been hard.
I was never an alcoholic so even saying I've been sober for over a year feels a bit weird.
It doesn't really feel like a celebration, but I guess it is..?

I suppose Im proud to say I havent drunk alcohol in over a year.

I didnt like who I was when I drank.
I didnt like not remembering parts of my evening.
I didnt like not feeling in control.

I wish I could say its made me more present... and maybe it has in some ways, but not in the ways people may assume.

I wish I could say its made me a less frustrated parent... but Im still human, and I still get annoyed.

I dont think my life has improved drastically since I ditched drinking, but it also hasn't gotten worse.

What it has done is remove something that wasn't adding anything to my life anymore.

I dont miss the hangovers.
I dont miss the anxiety the next day wondering what I said or how I came across.
I dont miss feeling like I needed a drink to relax, celebrate or have fun.

These days, I know I can dance, laugh, connect and enjoy myself without it.
Maybe that's the biggest change.
Not that my life became better overnight...
But that I realised I never really needed alcohol in the first place.

If I never drink again, I'm okay with that.
If one day I choose to have a glass of wine, I'm okay with that too.

This was never about rules.
It was simply about listening to myself.
And for the last year, myself has been saying, "No thanks."
So that's what I've done.

I guess I can raise a non-alcoholic glass to that.

25/06/2026

After choosing an early birth and connecting with other women who had experienced the same, I found myself wanting to understand and make sense of what I'd experienced.

It was the right choice at the time, and yet I also didn't want to take anything for granted should I choose to try and bring another soul earthside in the future.

Someone recommended Spirit Babies by Walter Makichen, and it became one of the most healing books I've ever read.

It helped me move through my emotions with more compassion, reconnect with myself, and, when the time felt right, learn how to prepare to call in my littlest love.

One of the things I'm deeply passionate about in my coaching is supporting women through these tender moments. Together we can create meaningful rituals to honour your baby, process grief without judgement, reconnect with your body, and gently find your way back to yourself when you're ready.

If you've experienced an early birth, either through miscarriage or abortion, I can't recommend this book enough. It was the gift I didn't know I needed. 💛

23/06/2026

🔥 HOT TIP TUESDAY
Stop waiting until you're in the mood.
Most people think desire comes first and intimacy follows.
In long-term relationships, it's often the opposite.
Connection creates desire.
Not the other way around.

But there is a catch.
There can't be any expectation that desire and intimacy will follow!
Removing the pressure and connecting for the sake of connecting is what creates trust and ultimately leads to more intimacy and desire.

Tell me, what's something small that helps you feel connected to your partner?

08/06/2026

Feeling more like housemates than lovers lately?

You're not alone.

Most couples don't lose connection because they stop caring.

They lose it because life gets busy.

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01/06/2026

I stuffed up...

Last week I created a Pleasure Menu. A simple entree, main, dessert, tapas style connection menu for couples.

It was a free download on my website. And it was good, but honestly... it was a bit generic and not really me.

On Saturday night, my husband and I decided to use it.
It was great, it was helpful and we had a lovely time, but I had a thought while we were in and amongst it....
Im in my inner spring, I really feel like....

And then it hit me.

I created the wrong pleasure menu.

Because ALL of my work is based around cycles and seasons.
Its how I make sense of everything and everyone.

Therefore, my pleasure menu should be the same!

But not only that, I realised I was only targeting people in relationships. The original pleasure menu was for couples, it didnt offer alternatives for individuals.

So... I spent the entire weekend working on not one, but two new seasonal pleasure menus -- FREE for you to download and print off and use over and over to create more intimacy and connection with yourself and with another.

You can use it in whatever way feels good for you. Use your cycle, use the seasons, use the zodiac or element you want to connect to, or simply chose whatever sounds appealing in the moment! Its completely up to you!

Head to my website to download your copy for FREE.

With love,
Bryony

21/05/2026

Read my latest story on Substack (link in my bio)

For those of you who don't know, Ive been writing on Substack for about 18 months now. Im not shadow banned over there, I can write without restriction, and I love that I can write to an audience who truly values what I have to say.

Its a beautiful space, filled with real words, real writers, and incredible pieces of literature.

If you love words as much as I do, you may find yourself loving it in that space.

It is slower over there. You dont get the instant dopamine hit you get from doom scrolling and watching reel after reel. Something we've become accustomed to.

But when you read a piece that speaks to your soul...
When you see yourself in the words and can relate to the story...
When you escape because the story pulls you in and you feel a part of it...

Well, that's not something I get here on this platform or others like it.

Come hang out where the words are. Its where all the cool (weird) people are now.