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16/06/2026

My mother used to tell me:

Regret less. Reflect more.

I built much of my life on those words.

And still got one part wrong.

For years, I thought reflecting meant replaying every hard moment until I had fixed it in my head.

The thing I said.

The tone I used.

The version of me I wished had shown up instead.

But that isn't reflection.

Reflection ends with a lesson.

Replay keeps the case open.

My mother said reflect.

I heard replay.

And I think many of us do.

Not all replay is reflection.

Some of it is simply staying behind long after the moment has ended.

Thursday's Capacity Letter is about that part of us.

The part that stays.

🌿





A hard moment ends. She is back at her blocks in ten minutes. I am still in it at midnight.Same rupture. Two different c...
15/06/2026

A hard moment ends. She is back at her blocks in ten minutes. I am still in it at midnight.

Same rupture. Two different clocks.

The gap is not love. It is meaning. She felt a moment. I turned it into a verdict.

If you know this clock, you are not the only one.

09/06/2026

It's never the first "Mumma."

Or the second.

Or even the third.

The moment that tips us over is often carrying the weight of everything that came before it.

The meeting that ran late.

The decisions.

The mental load.

The emotional residue of the day.

Sometimes what looks like a parenting problem is really a capacity problem.

The request wasn't heavier.

You were carrying more.

05/06/2026

Anger only needs 90 seconds. Most of us give it much longer.

Last night I was still angry at 11pm about something that ended at 6pm.

The body had finished its first wave hours ago. I was the one keeping it alive.

Dr Jill Bolte Taylor calls this the 90 second rule.

The first wave is the body.
The second wave is the story.

The first wave is allowed.
The loop is where we begin to have choice.

Issue 5 of The Capacity Letter is live now. Link in bio.

What is the moment you have been replaying the longest this week?

The moment lasted 30 seconds.It's been in your head for three hours.Sometimes the hardest part isn't the moment.It's wha...
02/06/2026

The moment lasted 30 seconds.

It's been in your head for three hours.

Sometimes the hardest part isn't the moment.

It's what your mind keeps doing with it afterward.

The replay. The rehearsal. The rewriting.

The event ended hours ago. The rehearsal is still running.

And that rehearsal is what tomorrow's evening will inherit.

What's the moment you're carrying right now?

Most of us know the feeling of falling out of it.⁣The snap, when the day finally tips you.The shutdown, when there's not...
30/05/2026

Most of us know the feeling of falling out of it.
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The snap, when the day finally tips you.
The shutdown, when there's nothing left to give.
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What we have not always known is that the zone we keep falling out of has a name.
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Dr Dan Siegel calls it the window of tolerance.
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The space narrows under depletion.
It slowly widens through repair.
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Most parents do not need more control.
They need a wider window.
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Full essay in this week's Capacity Letter, link in bio.
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22/05/2026

Water never starts at a boil.

It starts with one small bubble.
The kind most of us never stop to notice.

Our evenings work the same way.

The sharp word does not begin at the sharp word.

It begins earlier.

A jaw tightening before you notice it.
A breath going shallow around the fourth time you are asked the same thing.

By the time we hear ourselves snap, the water has often already boiled over.

But the pot taught me something this week.

If you can catch the first bubble, you can turn the heat down before it takes the whole evening with it.

And on the nights you miss it…
when it has already spilled over…

toh chai bana hi lete hain. ☕

You are not failing.

You are overloaded.

And like water, the nervous system settles again too. 🌿

Save this for the next evening that starts to bubble.

The hardest yes to interrupt is the automatic one.The one that leaves your mouth before your body has even checked in.I ...
18/05/2026

The hardest yes to interrupt is the automatic one.

The one that leaves your mouth before your body has even checked in.

I have been practising something small for the last few years:

Three breaths before responding to any request that arrives after 6pm.

Not to become calmer.
Not to sound wiser.

Just long enough for the automatic yes to loosen its grip.

Sometimes I still say yes.

But the yes feels chosen now.

And that changes something. 🌿

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