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Ben Leeder Coaching, Cranfield Road East, Carshalton, Sutton (2026)

27/07/2022

A Wholesome AF Day❤️

That last picture.

Have you ever seen anything more Ben Leeder 😂🥰

I find it so hard to switch off.

My mind is always going 1000 MPH. Basically thinking how can me and my team (you, yes you..) have the best time.

A big reframe for me, and something that’s helped me with a clearer mind, has been switching on to something else..

“Go and switch off?!”

Alright Bruv.. I’m trying to take over the world here.

Go and switch on to something that means the world to you, you’ll find it’s very easy to do

Because If you cannot take care of yourself what makes you think you can take care of others?

I struggled with this a lot, because I was always go go go.. but in reality

Everything I preach, is my energy, my compassion, my bantz (that will cost you..😂💁🏻‍♂️) all of that is an overflow of my own health, peace and clarity of mind...

Not every day can be about “them,” some days have got to be about you...

Today though, was for them ❤️

Remember my beautiful friends.

Rest, recover, and dream big.

Real Growth and service to others comes from a happy, healthy & well-rested YOU.

You deserve the very best 🤝

20/07/2022

Are they even ready to listen?

Back when I was coaching, this fu**ed with me a lot mate

So when I tell you this…

I really hope it hits home for someone that needs to hear it

I remember having this one client once…

She was an absolute darlin

But I was banging my head against the wall with her mate

Throwing the kitchen sink at all her problems

And I was coming back blank

No results

No progress

And often…

No check ins

I blamed myself, naturally.

“What am I doing wrong?”

I asked mentors, colleagues…

I really wanted to show up well for her.

But you know what I learned?

Not everyone that asks for help is ready to receive help.

And if this is the boat you’re in right now…

I hope you do one thing:

Recognise that you’ve made your best effort…

And that you’re not the only person in the coaching relationship.

Readiness to change is huge.

Like, mentally you know that…

But I need you to get that on an emotional level mate.

Because you can’t eat the food and do the reps for them.

They need to do their part too

Doesn’t make you a bad coach

Just means you can’t work miracles.

If you needed to hear this today…

Let me know..

Your sincerely,

Your local compassion dealer.

19/07/2022

The 3 things you need for a successful business.

A business you enjoy, and want to turn up to.
Clients you love, who inspire you to be better.
Clients who pay you for your service.

That’s your focus, that’s where your energy needs to go 👊🏻❤️

Having the right types of client in your business is so important.

Sounds obvious, but if things aren’t aligned for you, then your energy will always be off...

Which only enhances your uncertainty.

And leads to your mind to wonder...

The first job with your content is to stop your ideal clients just scrolling past.

You have a few seconds that’s it.

Then it needs to hit them straight in the chops.

How do you do that?

Start by understanding yourself, what you really want.

How you want to live.

If you can understand how you really tick, how your clients really tick..

Which will then allow you to build a programme where everyone wins.

This when your business truly becomes an extension of you.

You can’t skip this part my friend. It takes irritation and time, and that is ok.

Give you and your business the energy this task deserves 🤝

27/06/2022

How do you react in the face of a challenge, obstacle and adversity…?

Spoke about this in our Tune Up this morning and it really resonated with me.

He spoke about knowing yourself, and knowing how you operate the best...

Spoiler Alert : Knowing this is your super power.

It triggered me, because I never really stopped myself to ask..

I was so focussed on success.

When I get to x I will...

You know the stuff we tell clients not to do 😅

Success is very important…

But Happiness is what we really counts.

Do you know what slows all of that down?

The pressure you put on yourself when no one see is around...

Your success in anything comes down to your belief in yourself.

How you see your own capabilities.

Your capacity for improvement itself.

Read that again 👆🏻

When we don’t have a lot of belief…

We can be so so hard on ourselves.

Too hard in fact.

We will lay into ourselves if something hasn’t come out perfect.

Then we criticise ourselves for not having a million and one clients.

Comparing ourselves to other coaches who are further along in their journey.

I’m telling you this, because I did this, that devil on your shoulder isn't doing you any good.

You CANNOT punish yourself to success.

Please pay attention to the words you use when no body else is about..

Because you may end up believing them.

Approach your journey like a young child would when the play.. learn to walk..

It comes from a place of courage

Genuine belief to achieve something more.

Ask why over and over again

Become excited about your own potential.

And when you trip, because you will.. don’t let the fear of that stop you from getting back up and going again.

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Because do you know what I did, got around people who brainwashed me into believing how good I really was 😉

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04/04/2022

AND THE NEW...

⚔️ Head Of Operations at the High Performance Coach ⚔️

Is me!! 😍❤️

What an honour and a privilege to be chosen by THE best in the game & to be apart of the most incredible driving force within the fitness industry.

Before I say anything else, I’d like to thank them publicly for having the trust and belief in me to help amplify the HPC values and beliefs and message.

Believe me when I say this, if you are a fitness professional, and you don’t know who these two chaps are.

You’d better get to know very very quickly 👀

Because we are on a one way ticket trip to raising the standards of the fitness industry to a whole new level that has never been seen before.

Buckle yourselves in.

Because let me tell you.. The HPC was outrageous .

But the HPC 2.0 will be on a whole new planet 😍❤️

27/03/2022

The truth be told

George had his 9th birthday party... Nerf Gun themed... you can only imagine 😂😂 obviously I had to have a go 💁🏻‍♂️

Leanne will be dropping down a few days at work to child mind. Very proud of her for making the jump. Can be very scary.. but all the good stuff happens when you jump ❤️

Forced Evolution, something I spoke to Angus about this week. It’s very common to feel uneasy... overwhelmed when you’re going after something new.

It’s territory you’ve never been into. Your aren’t expected to know! How would you.. so bare that in mind when you enter a new week with whether that be new opportunities, or the start of your fitness journey . Feel it.. then own it.

The team are doing themselves proud just now.. I could go on and on... and I feel bad when I leave someone off.. but they are all doing very well in their own right.

Sam has been an absolute joy and it’s only been two weeks... She now lives at the gym 😂😍 .. From someone who didn’t go near the weights.. to now PB’ing lifts. Proud is an understatement.

Stu “It’s now what I do” Sykes has the kind mind, compassion now in place. He’s just got his summer wardrobe out.. and erm he’s got to get some new things.. 😂 👊🏻❤️

Bob “never say die” Turnbull - repping the slim fit for work. You would of seen his shout out in the week. On. Fire 🔥

Lorraine.. the Victoria secret model.. a slight ni**le this week. Dominating and owning it. Oh yes 🤩

A simple message today - Do yourself proud this week.

You deserve the very best

Happy Sunday.

27/03/2022

“It’s not easy being a mom. If it were easy, fathers would do it.

Thank you for everything you do in our lives.

❤️❤️❤️❤️

22/03/2022

This guy is something else, I tell ya 👊🏻❤️

Meet Bob

This man is busy.

Not one of these “I’m really busy type things”

He. is. busy.

I honestly think if Bob can do it, anyone can.

As adults (I know right 😅) our lives are crazy busy.

We work in demanding jobs, demanding environments

We have to commute,

Her have to run out homes

Maybe care for children, family ❤️

I want you to take a leaf out of Bob’s book..

Because he has reunited with himself this year.

well.. it’s been in the making for a little while 😉

But for you dear reader, how about working on this idea?

Give yourself the energy you deserve.

I know that sounds like an odd thing to say.

But with all of the demands you have on yourself in modern day life.

It’s easy to lose yourself.

We put so much energy into keeping all the plates spinning.

making sure everyone has what they need.

We often forget what WE need.

It’s March now.

Look back since the start of the year.

Honestly, have you been guilty of this?

I know I have at times.

In fact I think the vast majority of hero’s are guilty of this.

In the same way we want to catch up with old friends…

Maybe we should work on catching up with ourselves from time to time.

So before the summer really gets underway, join me in making a promise…

For you.

Just like Bob has...

Don’t forget about yourself…

You deserve the very best.

16/03/2022

“I need to speak to my partner first.”⁣⁣
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When we’re on that first call, I always ask if there’s anyone you should be speaking to before you commit to coaching.⁣⁣
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And usually, the person will be in a position to make a decision either way themselves.⁣⁣
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Yes or no bueno.

In or out.⁣⁣
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But sometimes, they tell me they need to have a chat with their other half.⁣⁣
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I will always stop the call there and encourage them to go do that immediately.⁣⁣
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They should absolutely be involved in the decision-making process.⁣⁣

It’s a must from me.
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And if you tell them this support is something you need.

You should fully expect their support.⁣⁣
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But the thing that always leaves me feeling a little sad.⁣
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Why are they not the first person you speak to about how you’re feeling?⁣⁣
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How long have you carried around the want for change?

and the first person you talk to about it is me?⁣⁣
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That’s both a genuine honor and a worry for me.⁣⁣

That the scale of emotion people feel is sometimes so huge that they feel like they can’t actually tell their partners how they feel.⁣⁣
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So please do feel like you can reach out.⁣⁣
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I absolutely want to hear from you!

and I am certain that if we’re a compatible fit, you will get life changing results you desire
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But please talk to your partner first.

Simply because your life is going to be much easier when they’re on board.⁣⁣

Much love,

Ben

13/03/2022

The Truth be told...
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It’s been a week.

I had Covid at the tail end of last week. I only had a few days where I felt ‘bad bad’, so I’m happy for that
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The frustration was being thrown out of my routines, but it’s something I stress to my gang a lot. It’s the way you react when things aren’t going in your favour which is a true vote for yourself and the character you want to build.

Not ideal at all.

But this is where self compassion must be turned up, because completely throwing the towel in at times like that is a one way ticket to feeling worse.
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Some fantastic wins in the programme this week.

Lorraine into that new weight bracket 🤩.. Knocking out press ups like nobodies buisness. Wowza. 🎶 This girl is on fire?!🎶
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Stu has to get himself a new wardrobe 😅 Sorry, not sorry 😂

Annie, what can I say.. prepping like a boss, and implementing the systems to put her into the best place possible. That calm mind is the greatest gift. Proud mate.

This week we welcomed Sam onto the team, welcome mate! I’m incredibly excited to see you win mate.

I’d like to share something she said to me.. “I just wanted to say that I already feel like a little weight has been lifted of my shoulders and its only been 1 hour”

If there’s one piece of advice I’d like to offer you off the back of that

You don’t need to stay stuck.
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It’s easy to fall into the trap 🪤 of feeling ‘ok’

Just letting time pass...

Stop yourself and really evaluate what is working and what isn’t.

You deserve better.

Much love,
Ben

24/02/2022

“Ben, how much is it?”

Money can be a very awkward subject.

And something that can hold us back…

But I know a lot of people can find it vulgar.
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But I don’t mind.

It just seems like a natural question when you’re thinking about buying a service.

⁣⁣When someone slides into my DM’s, asking what my coaching costs.⁣
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I’ll tell you what I’ll tell them.
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⁣I’ll only discuss the price over the phone.

Not because I'm pulling a fast one.

Not because I’m pulling it out of thin air.

⁣⁣Because I want to make sure I can help you, and you’re happy.

And the only way for us to do that is to have a chat.
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You’ll have heard dozens of coaches telling you this I bet:

I won’t work with everyone.

And it can seem like bu****it. But in my case it’s completely true.

Here’s why…

Honestly, I need to understand what’s going on with you.

I don’t take money off anyone if I’m not 100% certain that I can help with the problem you’ve got, mate.

And until I talk to you, I can’t fully understand what you’ve struggled with.

Make sense?

It’s not some marketing nastiness… or some bu****it trick. I just need to talk to you.

Because if I said yes, I could help - and you send me some money…

But I COULDN’T help you…
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Well, that’s not fair on you is it?
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So I don’t talk about price til we’re on the phone, simply because I need to be totally sure I can help you.
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It’s very important to me that I don’t waste your money.

But what’s even more important is I don’t waste your time.

Because that's way too valuable.
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And if I’m not the right coach for you… I’ll be able to put you in touch with someone that’s an ideal fit.⁣⁣

Deal 🤝

21/02/2022

Who is your favorite musician?

Who is the person you look at and admire?

They are the person who gets all the wolf whistles.

The applause.

Nobody really pays attention to the back up dancers

God forbid the poor bloke who plays the triangle.
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The same can be said for your fitness journey.⁣
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You turn up at the gym feeling like the bloke with the triangle.

But you’re bloody there!

You’ve put the effort in on this sub zero morning.

When could have just rolled over, and said sod this for a game of soldiers.

But my friend you’ll get your wolf whistles when you’re suited and booted in your finery looking hot af.⁣
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Nobody will be there when you're planning, cooking meals ready for the week ahead.

Juggling tupperware like the teenager working in Home Sense.
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Fast forward 12 months and everyone wants to know your tips for success when you’re strutting down the road looking like you’ve just come off the catwalk.

So every aspect of this won’t be wolf whistles and applause.
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The backstage stuff.⁣
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Nobody gets to see that.

They probably they wouldn’t want to.⁣

Well at first anyway 😉
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The thing is, one cannot happen without the other…

Get that triangle out and bang it for the lads.

Ben Leeder Coaching

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