03/06/2026
Most people think fat loss fails because of motivation
In reality it fails because of life happening
This is what happened to us in the last 48 hours
A few days after Alfie was born we were told his billirubin levels had gone abode the treatment threshold
This created a chain of events that never should have happened
Our son ended up in ambulance at 11pm
No warning
No preparation
No routine
No plan
Just deal with what is in front of us
One minute we’re just adapting to life as new parents
The next we’re on a hospital ward
Every routine we’d spent 4.5 years planning for went up in smoke in one phone call
Sleep, food, training, work, baby shifts & planned hand overs changed in a matter of an hour
My point is sometimes you fitness goals become irrelevant for short periods
Family, health and life come first in scenarios like ours
We were not thinking about sets and reps or macros at this point
Pretending you would or should be always committed to the goal is nonsense
This was also compounded by Kelly’s seizures being set off despite my protestation to medical professionals to let me stay
Unsurprisingly my concerns became reality an hour after I’d gone home and gone to sleep
So the situation because even more challenging than we expected
Living hour by hour fully focused on being parents
Not what gym session was next in rotation or if we were on point nutritionally
What we didn’t say was f**k it permanently
That anything was ruined or done for
We simply accepted we had little control over the situation and adapted
Salads and smoothies from in Carlisle
Me out for walks when Alfie was asleep 😴
Kelly catching up on sleep and resting so she was fighting fit for our prince of the jungle coming home
That’s what consistency really looks like
Finding adaptation in dark weeks when the world and time is against you
You’re not broken
You haven’t ruined anything
You need to stop being so f**king hard on yourself and adapt
Perfection is a myth and a lie
You couldn’t sustain even if you tried
So stop beating yourself up when life goes sideways
Brighter days are coming
