14/05/2026
Fertility issues don't pause real life, and real life doesn't pause for our heartbreak.
Behind the scenes, while coaching women, showing up in schools, supporting clients and being there for my family… I was miscarrying.
We both, showed up to work in the mornings after negative tests, smiling through conversations while carrying heartbreak quietly inside me. And somehow, through it all, continuing to show up also became part of what helped us heal.
Being around clients, supporting other women and continuing to build something meaningful slowly became a space for me, somewhere I could still laugh, connect and feel purpose on the heavier days.
Over time, fertility has affected me mentally & emotionally in ways I never imagined. The losses, the waiting, the uncertainty, the constant cycle of hope and heartbreak.
What many people don’t always see is how isolating fertility journeys can be, especially for same-sex couples.
There are two women on this journey.
Two women hoping.
Two women grieving.
Two women trying to stay strong for each other, while navigating additional steps, support and waiting that others don’t always see or understand.
So much of this experience is carried quietly. Miscarriages, chemical pregnancies, ectopic pregnancies and losses happen far more often than many realise, often behind closed doors.
That’s why the spaces I create have always mattered so much to me. A place where women can be, honest, feel heard, feel understood, and not feel like they have to pretend they’re okay or ever feel they are being judged.
And while I’m still on my own journey, I’ve had the privilege of watching some of my clients move from heartbreak to hope through fertility after their own difficult experiences, we have so many mini pocket rockets and more still to come. I would never take credit for that, but witnessing that shift in someones life is something I’ll always hold close.
This is for every woman carrying something heavy while still showing up every day, and for every same-sex couple navigating fertility while feeling unseen. You are not alone.
The Bolt rooms community, will always hold space for you to be part of ⚡️
