Sands United FC Enniskillen

14/06/2025

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Thoughts with all the Dads this weekend.

06/06/2025

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Enniskillen Sands support evening takes place this Monday evening, 9th June from 7.30pm in Fermanagh House

Come along for a cuppa and a chat with other bereaved parents

Mums AND Dads are most welcome

25/12/2024

🎄Happy Christmas from all at Sands United FC Enniskillen ⚽️

We are thinking of you today 💙🧡 We know that today will be difficult for many of you, but we hope that you can spend the day in a way that is right for you ✨

Our Helpline is open over the festive break. You may also find our other support channels helpful like our Online Community, Facebook Groups or Support Resources on our website.

sands.org.uk/support

19/11/2024

𝐌𝐲 𝐃𝐚𝐝’𝐬 𝐚 𝐐𝐮𝐢𝐞𝐭 𝐌𝐚𝐧

My Dad’s a quiet man
Never one for tears
He doesn’t show emotion
Hasn’t done for years
He keeps his upper lip so stiff
All strong and silent type
He plays the part of “moved on” well
But don’t believe his hype

My Dad’s a quiet man
Because it hurts inside
The day he lost me, his child
Something in him died
He held my Mum in his strong arms
Just held her while she sobbed
Numb with shock he never spoke
While my short life was robbed

My Dad’s a quiet man
After all his private grieving
He’s learned how to keep inside
All the pain he’s feeling
He’s afraid to talk of me
Because the tears will well
After all this time has passed
Who could he ever tell?

My Dad’s a quiet man
And I love him so
He may have lost me one sad day
But he’s never let me go
He holds me in his big heart
Along with all his pain
And silently prays for the day
We will meet again

My Dad’s a quiet man
But if he had the chance
He’d tell you how he loves me
How he lives life in a trance
How no-one ever asks him now
Few people ever did
And so he keeps it all inside
And never lifts the lid

My Dad’s a quiet man
Don’t mean he doesn’t think
About me, his child, every day
Still makes his kind heart sink

My Dad’s a quiet man
But he’s still my Dad, you see
I’ll always mean the world to him
He would give his world for me.

Men can be so bad at sharing emotions. It’s how we’ve been conditioned all our lives. When we are small boys and we fall over and hurt ourselves, perhaps there’s blood, our Dad will say “Now, don’t cry, be a big boy” and so we try to be a big boy every time we are hurting physically or emotionally and we don’t show our emotions.

The comedian Micky Flanagan, tells a joke that sums this up perfectly, he says “My Dad was an east end hard as nails bloke, when I fell off my bike, he picked the bike up first”

When our baby dies, as men, we try to be big boys and not cry. We struggle to hold our emotions in and mostly say nothing which can be interpreted by bereaved mums as not caring. We actually care so much that we tear ourselves apart trying not to cry so that Mum can grieve.

This poem is from an angel baby where they explain why their Dad is a quiet man and how underneath it all he is heartbroken.

08/11/2024

This years Lights of Love Service 🧡💙

Another Lights of Love service this year happening in Enniskillen. Feel free to message us if you have any questions

15/10/2024

💕 𝑾𝒂𝒗𝒆 𝑶𝒇 𝑳𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕 💕

Tonight from 7pm.

04/10/2024

💕💙🧡

23/09/2024

⚽️ 𝐖𝐞𝐞𝐤𝐥𝐲 𝐊𝐢𝐜𝐤 𝐀𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭𝐬 ⚽️

📅 𝐓𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐝𝐚𝐲𝐬
🕣 𝟖:𝟑𝟎 𝒑𝒎
📍 𝑳𝒂𝒌𝒆𝒍𝒂𝒏𝒅, 𝑭𝒐𝒓𝒖𝒎, 𝑬𝒏𝒏𝒊𝒔𝒌𝒊𝒍𝒍𝒆𝒏

𝐍𝐞𝐰 𝐅𝐚𝐜𝐞𝐬 𝐚𝐥𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬 𝐰𝐞𝐥𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 🤝

15/08/2024

19/07/2024

⚽️ 𝐅𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐥𝐲 𝐑𝐞𝐬𝐮𝐥𝐭 ⚽️

Sands United Enniskillen - 4
Goals 🥅
Braden, Ross, Coalan, Grant

Irvinestown/Lisnarick Select - 3

It seems like it always has to rain for this fixture, but that didn't put a damper on the banter and fun had.

Same time and place next year ⚽️😊

Thanks goes to George at the Bawnacre Centre, Mahon's Hotel for their hospitality and to Tim for his fine work as referee again this year.

Thank you for all this year donations going to another worthy charity Marie Curie.

Sands NI (Stillbirth And Neonatal Death Support)