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Gems Guiding Light Holistic Grief Coach What is grief? Many of us have experienced loss in our lives, grief is the natural emotional response from a significant loss. Gem x

While we all will experience it at some point in our lives, everyone grieves differently, there is no right or wrong way. Whether we want it to or not grief has a huge impact on our lives, especially our nervous system. It affects us individually as a person, it impacts our lives and relationships, and it can cause a knock-on effect on our health including problems like depression, anxiety and ill

nesses, if we don’t take care of ourselves. Our process to adapt to a significant loss can vary from one of us to another, the same as what comes up for us along the way is different. Many different factors in our lives can affect our journey with grief, like our beliefs and values or how we were raised. Grief doesn’t have a time line, time doesn’t know how to heal, it doesn’t make our grief any easier or help us to cope any differently. We are not just limited to feeling sad, we can feel many different emotions all at once. It’s important to know that they are not bad emotions, they are trying to speak to us just like our body does through our nervous system. Grief is like the ocean waves, emotions come in waves. They are unstoppable, but we can learn to ride them along the way. What is a holistic grief coach? I am a fellow griever and a holistic grief coach in training. As a holistic grief coach, I support you so you feel seen and heard, we develop self-regulation skills, reconnecting with your values, goals and life purpose and help you to reclaim your life. You may have tried other traditional therapies which haven’t worked for you or maybe you haven’t tried any. Sometimes for some of us who have used traditional therapies like counselling there may not be safety or a supported outcome as you talk about your grief and are triggered or re-traumatised. However, in holistic grief coaching we will acknowledge the grief together with resource which will allow your mind, body, spirit and nervous system, safety and compassion. We don’t fix our grief; we acknowledge it and bring awareness and insight to it. Accepting our journey where it is at.

We talk about our grief, our loss, our loved ones – not to compare or compete with each other. We talk about it to honou...
31/07/2026

We talk about our grief, our loss, our loved ones – not to compare or compete with each other. We talk about it to honour, remember, support each other & survive grief. Each loss is such an individual experience. Grief in itself is an experience we all share – but that doesn’t feel or look the same. Every memory, imprint, personality and relationship is unique. And we change and grow and evolve over time, meaning that if we have a second loss, it will not look the same for us either.

I would talk about my losses any day, to remember and share who they are and keep their memory alive. I would be honoured to hear about your loved ones.

29/07/2026

Grief stays close by us, but over time we learn to make space around our grief. It can feel like it’s in the distance in time as grief becomes further away and more manageable as we make space for it and learn to grow around it. We always carry it, sometimes it’s just closer to us than other times. Never really leaving our side.

It doesn’t wait until we are ready. Grief doesn’t care what’s going on in your life, it doesn’t care if you are struggli...
27/07/2026

It doesn’t wait until we are ready. Grief doesn’t care what’s going on in your life, it doesn’t care if you are struggling or have reached your limits. And life doesn’t care that your grieving, it carry’s on as if nothing has happened. We long for a moment to catch up with ourselves, to rest and recover. But grief is unbearable as it is, without all the added stresses and events that continue to go on and challenge us. Often at times we don’t need it the most.

If you are feeling this right now, I get it. You think you are doing well and getting to the other side (whatever that might be) and you feel like you are taking steps backwards. Life is throwing rocks at you and it won’t stop. We just need a break. We are human, and we take on a lot along the way often feeling unsupported and burnt out.

We don’t hold all the answers, we don’t have quick relief or permanent fixes for grief. They don’t exist. But to have someone support you with grief, which is already hard without all the extras - can change your experience from feeling lonely & unsupported – pushing your way through, leading to burnout or giving your grief space to be witnessed and held.

23/07/2026

Thinking of all my fellow grievers out there today. Feeling grateful for the time we did get to spend together, and always wishing it was more ❤️

Today is all about you Mum. It is your day & a day we continue to celebrate you and the day you were born. We are celebr...
20/07/2026

Today is all about you Mum. It is your day & a day we continue to celebrate you and the day you were born. We are celebrating you and the amazing lady that you are and have always been. Happy heavenly 70th birthday.

The most amazing mum, sister, friend, grandparent, daughter, wife we could all have ever asked for and were blessed to have in our lives, for always.

Love your Mema x

15/07/2026

I see memories, moments, and signs of you everywhere. I don’t have to look far. It brings comfort to my day ❤️

What date has meaning to you in your loss? Not necessarily when you said goodbye but it could be this date too, maybe it...
13/07/2026

What date has meaning to you in your loss? Not necessarily when you said goodbye but it could be this date too, maybe it’s a different date like their birthday, or a date they got their diagnosis or the day they overcame something.
One of the dates that has meaning to me is 16 August 2023 – the day my life changed forever. The day she died, and the day became her angelversary.

Please share yours if you would like too x

You have the answers, you already have everything you need inside of you. Your grief, your story – it is yours. You hold...
10/07/2026

You have the answers, you already have everything you need inside of you. Your grief, your story – it is yours. You hold the key to move forwards, but we get stuck in survival. Sometimes we just need someone to walk beside us and clear the fog. Someone to listen, understand, validate and support you moving forwards. To create a safe space for you to be seen and heard. This is what I can offer as a Holistic Grief Coach & someone who gets grief.

It is normal to experience exhaustion and tiredness with grief. There is nothing wrong with you, you have been through t...
09/07/2026

It is normal to experience exhaustion and tiredness with grief. There is nothing wrong with you, you have been through trauma and loss which impacts our nervous system as we often go into hypervigilance or hyper independence. As our nervous system is on high alert, and preparing for the next impact, loss often leads to dysregulation. What you may find is that you feel fatigued and experience brain fog. Among many other things we may feel, exhaustion can be a huge part of our experience after loss - as we process the event and the loss. We carry the emotional weight of grief, draining our mental capacity giving our mental load more to carry. Most often, grief affects our sleep (insomnia/nightmares) which can impact the fatigue we feel. If you are having trouble concentrating, this is also part of carrying our mental load after loss.

Grief is a whole body response, which is why as a holistic grief coach we have a whole body approach to it. Fatigue may be one small part of what we can look at together.

However, if you are having severe difficulty, please seek the support of a medical professional who will be able to support you through this.

08/07/2026

Something that was on my mind recently, is that we are so quick to move forwards in our day. Often at times cross and impatient with other drivers. When in reality, we have no idea what is going on with anyone else.

Maybe they are driving from a hospital visit, an appointment, a diagnosis, a funeral home, or somewhere- anywhere with news they weren’t expecting. News that is changing the course of their lives. Maybe, just maybe, they are driving around with a broken heart.

Let’s be kind to each other, as we are all navigating this journey.

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