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Gems Guiding Light Holistic Grief Coach What is grief? Many of us have experienced loss in our lives, grief is the natural emotional response from a significant loss. Gem x

While we all will experience it at some point in our lives, everyone grieves differently, there is no right or wrong way. Whether we want it to or not grief has a huge impact on our lives, especially our nervous system. It affects us individually as a person, it impacts our lives and relationships, and it can cause a knock-on effect on our health including problems like depression, anxiety and ill

nesses, if we don’t take care of ourselves. Our process to adapt to a significant loss can vary from one of us to another, the same as what comes up for us along the way is different. Many different factors in our lives can affect our journey with grief, like our beliefs and values or how we were raised. Grief doesn’t have a time line, time doesn’t know how to heal, it doesn’t make our grief any easier or help us to cope any differently. We are not just limited to feeling sad, we can feel many different emotions all at once. It’s important to know that they are not bad emotions, they are trying to speak to us just like our body does through our nervous system. Grief is like the ocean waves, emotions come in waves. They are unstoppable, but we can learn to ride them along the way. What is a holistic grief coach? I am a fellow griever and a holistic grief coach in training. As a holistic grief coach, I support you so you feel seen and heard, we develop self-regulation skills, reconnecting with your values, goals and life purpose and help you to reclaim your life. You may have tried other traditional therapies which haven’t worked for you or maybe you haven’t tried any. Sometimes for some of us who have used traditional therapies like counselling there may not be safety or a supported outcome as you talk about your grief and are triggered or re-traumatised. However, in holistic grief coaching we will acknowledge the grief together with resource which will allow your mind, body, spirit and nervous system, safety and compassion. We don’t fix our grief; we acknowledge it and bring awareness and insight to it. Accepting our journey where it is at.

17/06/2026

Every loss is completely unique on its own, we won’t ever grieve the way we once have. The pain of losing a loved one, a parent, without the chance to say goodbye brings about such a heartache and a longing for an opportunity that will never come. It is a huge shock, leaving behind things left unsaid, love with no where to go and a completely different environment than what existed before.

You are not alone if you have gone through this.

Much love
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Father’s Day is coming up this Sunday in the UK and like me, for so many of us it’s a day that brings mixed feelings and...
15/06/2026

Father’s Day is coming up this Sunday in the UK and like me, for so many of us it’s a day that brings mixed feelings and emotions. Happy and grateful for what we had, and celebrating dads, grandads, brothers, uncles, sons, who are still here with us and are amazing.

But then there’s the part of us that is and always will be longing for our fathers, grandfathers, brothers, uncles or sons who we have lost and are reminded of this on this day. Feeling the pain of no tomorrow with them.

As this day arrives it’s so easy to get pulled into the harshness, especially when we go to look at photos expecting to find something new, something we haven’t seen before. With the reality that there is no more, there won’t be any more. But if we are lucky maybe this time one photo will be hiding behind the other and we get one more photo, one more memory we can hold onto.

So whatever comes up this week before Father’s Day, what ever your plans are or whatever you feel. I hope you are able to find space, time and love for yourself and loved ones and lastly to give yourself what you need in the most special of ways.

Love Gem
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As a qualified Holistic Grief Coach, I am able to bring my knowledge and understanding of grief and trauma and support y...
12/06/2026

As a qualified Holistic Grief Coach, I am able to bring my knowledge and understanding of grief and trauma and support you navigating life after loss. Aside from my qualification, there are many experiences and qualities that I have and have gone through which supports me in my ability to provide empathy, understanding and support.

My sessions are focused on you, my clients, and these qualities and experiences I have been through help me to better support you. While I will not discuss in my sessions my experience, unless you ask for it, they have helped to shape my support as a highly sensitive and empathetic individual.

10/06/2026

There is always space for growth; when we are ready. The rain reminds us of this

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Grief can impact our spiritual beliefs, meaning, purpose & connection when it challenges us after our loss. Because it t...
08/06/2026

Grief can impact our spiritual beliefs, meaning, purpose & connection when it challenges us after our loss. Because it triggers existential questions, questions that leave doubt and go unanswered about life & its meaning. We find ourselves asking why? Why did this have to happen and why did they have to go? Where have they gone? What is it all about and what is my place now?

It can deeply affect our connection with loved ones, leaving us feeling like we no longer have a connection, feeling disconnect, or finding new ways to continue the bond & connection leading to deeper spiritual bonds. Part of our work can be looking at ways we can continue to build these spiritual bonds and looking at what they mean for you.

Grief is a normal part of life, and our experiences are completely valid. Grief can leave us feeling isolated and lonely, but we can also find a deeper sense of connection to ourselves, our loved ones, our bond & connection with them, our community and our beliefs in a higher power.

Seeing a holistic grief coach gives you a safe space, fully supported & the understanding of grief & connection. Together we raise awareness & reconnect with what matters to you, what you believe and what you need moving forward.

Much love
Gem
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Grief impacts us in so many ways, some may seem more obvious and some we become aware of over time. Through exploration ...
05/06/2026

Grief impacts us in so many ways, some may seem more obvious and some we become aware of over time. Through exploration and support with a holistic grief coach you may come to acknowledge that grief has had an impact on your spiritual or religious beliefs and values.

Grief affects our sense of meaning, our purpose and beliefs for being here but also our connection with ourselves and our loved ones who are gone. We start to question life & its meaning, subtle changes or big changes might show in our beliefs. We might long for a greater understanding of what happened, why it had to happen, where they in pain, what is it all for and so forth. We question the meaning of life. What we once gave importance and belief too, may no longer stand the same now as it did before. We might not tolerate life, people, things the same. What once felt important, doesn’t feel important now we have experienced our greatest fear, the loss of our loved ones.

As these changes come to us & our spiritual & religious beliefs, we might feel disconnected, lost, and overwhelmed. Pulling away from things, places and people that once felt safe & understood. Our human nature is to search for these questions and try to find answers. Grief often leaves us struggling, avoiding or unaware of what is going on, on a deeper level. We feel like we don’t know who we are any more or understand us or life. We struggle to get the answers we hope will fix everything.

But gaining this clarity, allowing room for exploration and sitting with the feelings, emotions and understanding grief, our beliefs, values and our journey can help to create the safety we so desperately need.

This is all normal in grieving; you are not alone if you have felt any of this. Grief does have a profound impact on all areas of our lives, and our spiritual & religious beliefs may be one of these.

Seeing a holistic grief coach gives you a safe space, support & connection in being able to reconnect with what matters to you, what you believe and what you need moving forward.

Much love
Gem
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03/06/2026

Grief is like a river, a river we must cross even if we don’t want to. While it can feel big, cold, lonely and overwhelming we are not alone.

Currents pull us back, pull us towards what we have lost. But every movement forward is a testament to love that remains.

Life hits harder these days, it’s difficult and challenging. As we go into the next month with sunny days & summer spiri...
01/06/2026

Life hits harder these days, it’s difficult and challenging. As we go into the next month with sunny days & summer spirit, I hope you can find space & comfort to breathe if life doesn’t feel that way right now. As we face difficult challenging times in our daily life, added by the emotional pain and turmoil of loss & grief, days feel heavier & harder to accomplish.

My hope to you is that you find enough love and courage to be kind to yourself. Its ok if life slows down when you think it should be speeding up, or if you need a moment to gather yourself, if you feel like its all too much. You are never alone and there is always someone somewhere who will sit with you or get it.

I am available if you want or need to reach out. I get it.

Much love
Gem
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Grief isn’t just about coming to terms with the absence of our person, situation or place we lost, but its about interna...
29/05/2026

Grief isn’t just about coming to terms with the absence of our person, situation or place we lost, but its about internalising and adapting to the changes it brings and moving forward with support and purpose.
But in our grief, our loss brings about feelings we might not expect like anger, guilt, sadness or resentment. These feelings and emotions may in time impact our relationships.
So many of us feel lonely and isolated in grief and relationships can add too it. We can feel alone in a room full of people, even when we are not alone physically, we can feel like we are.

Situations, circumstances, beliefs and values may shift the dynamics of our relationships. As these come to the forefront while navigating this new circumstance.

We all handle grief differently, creating division. Some times many of us become avoidant, withdrawing from society leading to misunderstanding. Our coping mechanisms are so individual and unique but can also bring us together when we look for it. Though these very same coping mechanisms might be the buffer between our relationships, pushing the boundaries and separating entirely.
Our emotional pain is a heavy weight to carry. Sometimes we bottle up our emotions, and avoid conversations which lead to resentment and distance. Or we find the courage to speak up and it doesn’t go how we had hoped or expected leaving us feeling misunderstood or unsupported.

We navigate new situations like the funeral, probate and take on all the admin tasks after the loss of our loved one which means that new roles and responsibilities arise and not always equally or how we expect. We can be left feeling unsupported, especially as the adult child who has had to take on everything alone.

Grief unearths unresolved issues or exposes them with our loved ones and family.

When we lean into grief to witness, explore and support ourselves and others, it can help to lay the groundwork for our relationships and moving forward. In any direction that you choose to take.

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