Herman Jaramillo

08/04/2020

16/03/2020

Who wants to DECLARE THEIR REVOLUTION (passion project) on stages and in books? Comment "yes" below and I'll send you details on a free training I'm hosting with Marc Cordon and George Andriopoulos.

More than stages and books, your joy revolution is a way of life, a mindset, and a departure from the quiet desperation that many people still live in.

Even Thoreau mentioned it.

"The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. What is called resignation is confirmed desperation. From the desperate city, you go into the desperate country and have to console yourself with the bravery of minks and muskrats. A stereotyped but unconscious despair is concealed even under what are called the games and amusements of mankind. There is no play in the, for this comes after work. But it is a characteristic of wisdom not to do desperate things."
Henry David Thoreau

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04/12/2019

Thank you Nikki Bruno for giving me this great opportunity to be on your podcast The Epic Comeback Podcast. I loved this interview.

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-epic-comeback-podcast/id1482779695

10/10/2019

Epicurus came up with a good test anytime he felt himself being pulled by a strong desire: What will happen to me if I get what I want? How will I feel after?" "

In our lives, we have — a constant struggle with desire.

They are all over the place, in all areas in our lives, and they have even become a measurement of acceptance in groups.

Desires are neither good or bad, is what we do with them is where a problem can occur.

Desire: "A strong wish or want for something."

Something that happens with desires is that we do not measure ourselves; we do not know when enough is enough.

We tell ourselves lies, like:
- "It doesn't matter."
- "Nobody will know or notice."
- "It is only once."
- "This will be the last time."
- "I deserve it."

In some cases, you can add peer pressure, others pushing you into a desire, like drinking, drugs, eating. We permit this, because we do not want to be left out, be different, the laughing stock, rejected.

After the majority of these desires, we feel bad, with regret, sometimes even ill.

We may promise that we will not repeat this, or when we do it is we will practice moderation.

To only repeat it in the same way.

We cave into desires, out of a sense of entitlement, out of a feeling we deserve something better, and we use these desires as a way to escape, to believe we are free, and we can do whatever we want, believing we have control over our lives.

We say to ourselves we are not free, that we have had to follow the rules of others, so desire come as a way to escape from this, as a way to feel I can finally do what I want.

For example, if we were controlled by what we ate when we were growing up, we grow up and use eating food, as a way to say "nobody controls me, I am in charge of my life, I can do whatever I want."

The lie is that we are not in control; what we desire is in control of us, because we can not say no.

After a while, we affect, for example, our health, we gain weight and feel sorry for ourselves, and in some cases, we can create a physical dependence on what we desire.

Part of life is to find a balance in all areas when we act out of fear; we go into extremes.

A desire is

23/09/2019

So what is it, them, or me?

Marcus Aurelius, in his book Meditations, has this quote: "It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people but care more about their opinion than our own."

It is curious that so many actions we do in life, it is about me, me, me, doing them in extremes, like a selfish bastard, only looking out for ourselves.

But we do this out of survival, out of fear, this is why we lie, we cheat, we are unfaithful to others.

When an opportunity comes where we do look out for ourselves out of love, we second guess it, we immediately bring in EVERBODY'S opinion, and we shut down.

How many ideas have you had for a business to keep them hidden in a drawer to see others come up with the same ideas and accomplish glory?

There are days that I feel tired because of the pressures I have invented.

Although they are real, for example, financial issues, need to pay bills, but the extra pressure, the shame that I feel is invented.

These are created by what I believe others would say about me.

We believe they are right, and I am wrong, and I should be someone different than who I am, that I am flawed, I am wrong, I am a failure.

It is not to go to another extreme, where I say F**K EVERYBODY!!!! I do not care what anybody says.

If you look closely at the quote, you will see the world "care." And here is the problem.

The opinion of others is critical; they can be objective; can have more experience and knowledge. But when we mix it up with emotions is where we screw things up.

If we can objectively see these opinions, as facts, everything would be different.

I believe in life; there should be a balance between the exterior and the interior. To go to a place where I only care for myself, as I said before is fear, it is useless because we live in a society.

One of the biggest fears we have is of rejection because we NEED to belong to a tribe a group. This is part of our DNA.

Let's put ourselves first, but without forgetting about the rest of the world.

By denying the opinion of others, does not mean they will reject us, and if they do what an excellent filter to know who is a healthy person to b

30/08/2019

Are you helping or think you are helping?

When I spoke with an entrepreneur before becoming a coach, I thought I was the next big thing and very practical.

I used to bombard them with enough “in your face” questions to destroy any aspiration they had of doing anything.

At that moment, I used to justify this, saying, “if they do not have the right answer to my questions, they will fail.”

I did these questions for several reasons:
I was under a lot of pain, feeling that I was not enough
I did not want them to do what I could not do, which was following their dreams. I was envious of them. So it was better to help them not do it. Sounds terrible (I know it) but this all I knew at that moment.
I wanted to appear as someone very knowledgeable in entrepreneurship and was trying to create an image of myself like something big. (yeah right)

When I started to follow my dreams and became a coach, I could identify with them completely. I was in their shoes and could see that almost any idea in the world can quickly be shut down and useless, have a terrible business plan, wrong strategies, no ways of growing. And the list continues.

At this moment if old Herman came to the present me, I would have thrown his ass out of the room. (I confess something I have been doing but mentally almost daily).

I see at this moment that there is much more than seeing my business as something that can fail or not,

Today I feel that any idea can be good or bad; one of the essential parts in trying to be an entrepreneur is to have the right mindset.

It is rare to have an idea that flourishes instantly, mostly you have to nourish them, a lot of trial and error, adjusting.

Just read some biographies, and you will see they have gone through many years and hundreds or even thousands of rejections or mistakes before flourishing.

Does this mean that their ideas were not worth working on?

One question that continually comes up is when you do know when to abandon an idea.

Some say one year, others two or three years. I sincerely believe that this is impossible to answer.

How do you know when you will find the right moment or person or opportunity to flourish your bu

30/08/2019

Are you helping or think you are helping?

When I spoke with an entrepreneur before becoming a coach, I thought I was the next big thing and very practical.

I used to bombard them with enough “in your face” questions to destroy any aspiration they had of doing anything.

At that moment, I used to justify this, saying, “if they do not have the right answer to my questions, they will fail.”

I did these questions for several reasons:
I was under a lot of pain, feeling that I was not enough
I did not want them to do what I could not do, which was following their dreams. I was envious of them. So it was better to help them not do it. Sounds terrible (I know it) but this all I knew at that moment.
I wanted to appear as someone very knowledgeable in entrepreneurship and was trying to create an image of myself like something big. (yeah right)

When I started to follow my dreams and became a coach, I could identify with them completely. I was in their shoes and could see that almost any idea in the world can quickly be shut down and useless, have a terrible business plan, wrong strategies, no ways of growing. And the list continues.

At this moment if old Herman came to the present me, I would have thrown his ass out of the room. (I confess something I have been doing but mentally almost daily).

I see at this moment that there is much more than seeing my business as something that can fail or not,

Today I feel that any idea can be good or bad; one of the essential parts in trying to be an entrepreneur is to have the right mindset.

It is rare to have an idea that flourishes instantly, mostly you have to nourish them, a lot of trial and error, adjusting.

Just read some biographies, and you will see they have gone through many years and hundreds or even thousands of rejections or mistakes before flourishing.

Does this mean that their ideas were not worth working on?

One question that continually comes up is when you do know when to abandon an idea.

Some say one year, others two or three years. I sincerely believe that this is impossible to answer.

How do you know when you will find the right moment or person or opportunity to flourish your business?

There is a story about a person who bought a piece of land because there was a diamond mine. He looked all over the place, dug everywhere brought in machinery did everything he thought could do. One day tired of not finding anything he sold the land.

The new owner came in, and after some days of digging, found the diamond mine quickly.

There is no security what works and what doesn’t.

As for me today, when someone comes up to ask me about their entrepreneurship, I help them find opportunities, to find solutions.

Every day we can find obstacles or opportunities, but sometimes we stay only in the challenges. It is hard to be objective and see the possibilities.

Reading James Altucher quote, we should know when we are helping people or just giving them our fears.

The life of an entrepreneur is not easy, it is a rollercoaster ride, and the only way we can continue this path is by having a healthy and strong mindset, where we can see our obstacles as opportunities.

24/08/2019

Success is not true

There is saying, "We want others to do what we could not do, or we do not let others do what we could not do."

Thorugh the fears that our caregivers had, is how they have controlled our actions.

We have taken this way of living without knowing that it is was not based on logic, and we never question them.

Early in my career as a coach, I caught myself doing this. I used to push my clients to the limit to accomplish their dreams.

When I identified this, I found how I wanted to feel good through them.

I did this by pushing them to do something I was not doing out of fear of rejection.

So I had to reassess my coaching practice, which I recommend any coach, therapist, and parent to do by identifying your fears and how objective you are with other people.

For example, it is curious to see today parents (in some cases, not all) posting pictures of their children when they win something. Saying "How proud I am of you," or once I read "How proud I am of you today." I almost answered, "only today?"

Unconsciously some may want these moments so they can feel they are good parents, feel good about themselves, and in some cases try to compete with other parents.

Yes, caregivers are happy about their children's accomplishments, and it is good to post them publicly, but why don't they say how proud they are, with a photograph of them doing something mundane.

We should all ask ourselves what our definition of success is, and if it is ours if it is based on fear or not.

This way, we can create our own and live on our terms.

22/08/2019

Journey to verb-land

Coming up with ideas is easy for me, almost daily, I have some new insight.

I felt like I had a gift; I was better.

I was a noun

When I got into entrepreneurship, I started to study how to grow a business, and one of the common threads was ideas are useless without action.

I went into denial. I felt that my whole worth was my ability to come up with ideas.

I did not pay attention to this and continued my path to end up with unsatisfactory results.

Until one day, I read this quote "Lots of people want to be the noun without doing the verb." Austin Kleon

I was only trying to be a noun.

I had to start taking action.

I was only relying on my ideas, and that was it, I was not taking action on them, making them useless.

I even saw others came up with similar ideas than mine, taking them to action, and succeeding.

I came up with all the typical excuses:
* • I need to prepare more
* • I don't have money
* • No time
* • Don't have the technical skills
* • Many more

The truth was I had this big fear of rejection. Taking action could expose me to fail and get rejected.

Although action could take me to success, I was not confident enough to take this risk.

By not taking action, I created a comfort zone.

In this comfort zone:
* • I came up with excuses,
* • played victim
* • blamed everybody and everything, including myself
* • Felt frustrated,
* • Sad
* • Anxious


This only worked for a while.

In life, you can run, but you cannot hide.

My fears have always found me, and until I did not see them in the eye, I could not understand that by not taking action was affecting my business and my life.

In summary, I was avoiding to be rejected by anyone. I created all these defense mechanisms, like procrastination and self-sabotage, to survive.

Once I saw this, I understood I learned this in my childhood years, so I created exercises to unlearn this.

After this, I started to become a verb, and take my ideas to fruition. Letting go of the results, and feel free to be me, to try, let go of my imagination and creativity, and see what stuck and what didn't stick.

Being an entrepreneur, we need to be bot

20/08/2019

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13/08/2019

The Meaning in our business

Victor Frankl talked about 3 ways to discover meaning in our life.

1. By doing work that matters
2. By loving others unconditionally
3. By finding meaning in suffering

Let’s break this down.

What does your work mean to you? Is it only to get money. Or do you feel it is more important, is beyond you?

When we talk about loving others unconditionally, it is not in the romantic sense, of “You are everything to me, my life without you has no meaning” kind of love.

It means that I hold no judgments, towards others, I accept people as they are, even if they affect me. I can see my shadow in them, helping me see unaccepted aspects of myself — permitting me to grow as a person.

The third one, finding meaning through suffering is something that at least in my case the first time I read it did not bring anything of value to me.

Initially, I thought suffering was something we should avoid at all costs, and I could accomplish this by having a lot of money.

In other posts, I wrote how I lost it all by trying to find this “perfect life.”

Looking back, I would not say I had all the money in the world, but I had enough. This gave me pleasure but never happiness.

Pleasure is a moment by moment experience; happiness is an ongoing state.

The problems that I believed I had due to lack of money were not as big as I thought, and second, was not because I didn't have a high income. It was all consequences to the perceptions I had.

I believed I needed to punish myself; I used to think that I did not deserve much, and I needed to suffer.

Suffering was a way of getting attention and pity from others.

I have never stopped suffering, not because my life is awful, because s**t always comes up, no matter the circumstances you are living.

You can eliminate everything you believe comes in the way for your happiness, and it will never be enough.

The idea of believing that you need to get rid of anything from your life to be happy is what creates suffering in the first place.

How do you know what makes you suffer or not.

Suffering, obstacles, is ALWAYS a way to be able to grow as a person, to find opportunities, to learn something new.

Sit down for a moment and think about a life with no suffering, the result would be most undoubtedly a life without any purpose; there would be nothing else to attain, nothing else to push you to be a different person. I feel it would be boring and meaningless, dull.

Suffering has been something compelling, taking me out of my comfort zone; I am a completely different person.

How is your relationship with suffering, do you hide from it, or do you use it in a positive way.