11/12/2024
What is the point of healing a relationship once a parent has died ?
I would love to share something that happened to me a couple of weeks ago .
While alive my mother and I had a very formal relationship - she was acutely unmaternal to put it mildly ...I can count on the fingers of one hand the times she actually showed spontaneous affection to me . Fortunately for me I had a Nanny until I turned 13 who adored my brother and I and showed it non stop . During my 4th decade I finally found a way to begin to heal my mother wound and my life got a lot better....my mother had died by then but I began to feel her spirit and had several intense psychic encounters with her.
2 week ago I had a sudden thought ..'its a while since I felt my mothers spirit '
That night I had a dream and during the dream at some point I was outside in the rain with someone - we got totally drenched and went back inside and I was standing in front of this person who was not my mother but I was close to her and felt concern for her. I was draping a towel around her shoulders to dry her and suddenly BOOM - My Mothers head pushed through what felt like an energetic curtain and she kissed me on my cheek . It was over in a second but she was so real - the feel and exact tone and translucence of her skin ( i had forgotten quite how delicate her skin was ) ...the smell of her , her eyes , her BEING , it was like in an instant my dream when from dreamlike to HD full technicolour x100. I awoke immediately and just said ;
"thank you thank you thank you and well done to break through the veil to me like that".
I finally got a spontaneous kiss , 25 years after she passed.
This my dear readers is why , in my opinion ,there is a point to heal relationships even if it feels too late and pointless. The love is always there if we can heal ourselves enough to let go of the painful years- and stories we have built up around them- and see the lessons in why life had to be a certain way. Then real growth can happen.
I am happy to talk to anyone further and explain more of how I began to heal myself with EFT and Matrix Reimprinting and how I might help you , if this resonates.
here she is as an 18 year old approx...