06/17/2026
โ๐ ๐ฉ๐ข๐ท๐ฆ ๐ฆ๐ท๐ฆ๐ณ๐บ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ ๐ธ๐ข๐ฏ๐ต ๐ช๐ฏ ๐ญ๐ช๐ง๐ฆ. ๐๐ฐ ๐ธ๐ฉ๐บ ๐ฅ๐ฐ๐ฆ๐ด ๐ด๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ด๐ต๐ช๐ญ๐ญ ๐ง๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ญ ๐ฐ๐ง๐ง?โ
This client came to me not because everything had fallen apart. She came because everything looked fine on the outside, and yet something on the inside didnโt feel quite right.
A good career, a loving family; the life she worked hard to build is right there.
But in the quieter moments, this one question keeps on creeping up on her: ๐๐ด ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด ๐ช๐ต?
In my work as a Life & Wellness coach, I often encounter women who struggle with this, or a similar question. They are hesitant to say it out loud, afraid to sound ungrateful.
If this is you, Iโd like you to know this: ๐ช๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ผ๐'๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐ณ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐น๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ถ๐ ๐ป๐ผ๐ ๐ถ๐ป๐ด๐ฟ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐๐๐ฑ๐ฒ. Itโs not a sign that youโve made the wrong choices. ๐๐โ๐ ๐ฎ ๐ฝ๐ถ๐๐ผ๐ ๐ฝ๐ผ๐ถ๐ป๐. ๐๐ป๐ฑ ๐ถ๐ ๐บ๐ถ๐ด๐ต๐ ๐ฏ๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐บ๐ผ๐๐ ๐ถ๐บ๐ฝ๐ผ๐ฟ๐๐ฎ๐ป๐ ๐ผ๐ป๐ฒ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐น๐ถ๐ณ๐ฒ.
Hereโs whatโs often happening beneath the surface:
For most of their lives, these women have built their identity around their roles: Mother, Professional, Partner, Caretaker. Theyโve become exceptional at showing up for everyone else, but when I ask them who they are outside of those roles, or what they actually want out of life, the question lands like a surprise.
That gap between the self you โperformโ and the self you actually are is what causes this unease.
When we finally stop shoving aside the question of what matters to ๐ถ๐ด, something shifts. The fog starts to lift, and the path before us becomes clear. The life we actually want slowly comes into focus.
๐๐ณ ๐๐ผ๐'๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐๐ถ๐๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐๐๐น๐ฒ๐๐๐ป๐ฒ๐๐ ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ด๐ต๐ ๐ป๐ผ๐, ๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐ถ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐'๐ฑ ๐ถ๐ป๐๐ถ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ผ ๐๐๐ฎ๐ฟ๐:
Ask yourself: โWho are you when no one needs anything from you?โ
Sit with that. Write it down. Let it be uncomfortable.
And when you're ready to explore what comes next, give me a call.
I work with women in midlife who are ready to move from restless to purposeful, from foggy to clear, from living for everyone else to finally living for themselves too.
If that sounds like the support you've been looking for, click the link below to book a free connection call.
๐ฌ๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ป๐ฒ๐
๐ ๐ฐ๐ต๐ฎ๐ฝ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ฑ๐ผ๐ฒ๐๐ป'๐ ๐ต๐ฎ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ผ ๐๐ฎ๐ถ๐.