08/17/2026
“Does your spouse support your goals?”
I ask this question before someone starts coaching with me.
And almost everyone says yes.
Because… of course they do, right?
Because saying “I support you” is easy.
Actually supporting someone through a weight-loss journey can require something from you, too.
When I first decided to lose weight, I told my boyfriend, now my husband — that I was going to try a 3-month program.
He basically said, “Great. Sounds good.”
I don't think either of us fully understood what that was going to mean.
My meals were planned.
Food was measured.
Workouts were scheduled.
I had goals I was committed to.
And because we shared a life, my choices affected his life too.
So what did he do?
He measured food with me.
Helped me meal prep.
Asked questions.
Planned dates where I could make choices that worked with my goals.
He didn't complain that I “wasn't fun anymore” because we weren't eating out as often.
He didn't make me feel guilty when I left early for a workout or stayed after work to train.
He didn't complain when dinner was repetitive or boring.
And every Saturday morning, he would ask:
“What did your coach say?”
He didn't just say he supported me.
He participated in supporting me.
He made space in our life for something that mattered to me.
And I truly believe that's one of the reasons I succeeded.
So now when I ask a potential client, “Does your spouse support your goals?” I want her to think a little deeper before answering.
Will they support you when it inconveniences them?
When dinner changes?
When you need an hour to yourself to train?
When you say no to takeout?
When you're spending money on coaching
When you need them to take over bedtime because you haven't had a chance to move your body yet?
When you're tired, discouraged and questioning whether any of this is worth it?
Because sometimes support isn't saying:
“I want you to succeed.”
Sometimes it's saying:
“I understand that your success might require
something from me too — and I'm willing to be part of it.”
Your health journey might be your responsibility.
But when you share a life, having them beside you, making room for your goals ca
