03/09/2026
Oftentimes, we seek love and connection in places where it isn’t available. Instead of letting go, our tendency is to try to fix it, understand it, or change ourselves in order to have what we want.
This only reinforces our own sense of lack, emptiness, and unworthiness—which are often the very reasons we became attracted to this particular person or situation to begin with.
Learning to recognise the signs of unavailability is an important first step in turning toward, and reclaiming, yourself.
It is then important to pay attention to what is actually available. Who gives you attention? Which projects nourish you? What situations reciprocate your level of attention, energy, and love, rather than depleting you?
Learning to follow what nourishes us often implies letting go, which can be painful. And yet, it can also be deeply rewarding.
When we learn to take in that which gives us love back, it often points us in the direction we need to go.
Nourish that which nourishes you back.
