04/09/2026
There's a difference between ๐น๐ผ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ๐ผ๐ป๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐พ๐๐ถ๐ฒ๐๐น๐ ๐๐ฎ๐ธ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐๐ฝ๐ผ๐ป๐๐ถ๐ฏ๐ถ๐น๐ถ๐๐ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ต๐ฎ๐ฝ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ป๐ ๐ป๐ฒ๐
๐.
For adults with CPtsd, that difference can be surprisingly difficult to recognise. We can care deeply about someone while also finding ourselves watching their reactions, trying to prevent distance, needing reassurance about the future, or changing ourselves to keep the relationship moving in the direction we hope it will go.
Sometimes it can sound like:
๐ โIf I explain it properly, they'll understand.โ
๐ โI just need to know where this is going.โ
๐ โMaybe if I give them a little more timeโฆโ
๐ โIf they pull away, I need to fix it.โ
๐ โWhat do I need to do so they choose me?โ
Recovery gives us another possibility.
โข ๐ ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ป ๐น๐ผ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ๐ผ๐ป๐ฒ ๐๐ถ๐๐ต๐ผ๐๐ ๐บ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฎ๐ด๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐บ.
โข ๐ ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ป ๐๐ฎ๐ป๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐น๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป๐๐ต๐ถ๐ฝ ๐๐ถ๐๐ต๐ผ๐๐ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ป๐๐ฟ๐ผ๐น๐น๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ถ๐๐ ๐ผ๐๐๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ.
โข ๐๐ป๐ฑ ๐ ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ป ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐บ๐ฎ๐ถ๐ป ๐บ๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ถ๐น๐ฒ ๐ ๐ฑ๐ถ๐๐ฐ๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ต๐ฎ๐ฝ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ป๐ ๐ป๐ฒ๐
๐.
Save this one. It can be surprisingly useful when your brain starts trying to write the next six chapters of a relationship before you've finished the page you're actually on. ๐
With care, Linda ๐